Post # 1
So, I decided to read this notorious/infamous series to find out what all the hubbub. While I admit I enjoyed the first one, I’m over halfway through the second one and **SPOILER ALERT**
After 5 weeks.
I nearly threw my Kindle down the hallway.
Even f*cked up 50 Shades has a desire to be man and wife. Now, don’t get me wrong, my SO and I will get married. But, when he proposes, it won’t be because he wants to get married because he thinks it will somehow change/strengthen our relationship or commitment to each other. It’ll be because I want it, and it’s time. I’m learning to deal with this as I understand his side of the spectrum, but still… really? I pretty much finished the section and shut off my Kindle.
Post # 3
I’ve never read the book nor do I care to, but I have to tell you I fell off of my couch laughing so hard…. not at your situation just at the fact that you almost threw your kindle down the hall.
Post # 4
@sleepingbeauty88: “I nearly threw my Kindle down the hallway.”
bwahahahahahahaha!!! I totally feel you on this! I would have thrown my Kindle too! Especially since that is where I do all my shameful Pinning, Hiving, Knotting, and reading all those “How to…” books on my Kindle.
Post # 5
I havn’t read it yet but I want too. I just want to see what all the hype is about.
I understand your feelings about this but remember it is just a book and not reality. Your post made me laugh about throwing your kindle..dont do it!
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater
When I read them I thought the same thing… Someone gave me all three and I had to force myself to finish them. I thought the first one was fine but the next two are just so unrealistic.
Post # 7
LOL, I’m glad you all took this the way I meant it to be taken – light hearted. I definitely laughed at myself this morning at the incredible immaturity of my thoughts. At the time, I didn’t throw it because I thought it would wake SO. I swear he calms my impulsive nerves even when he’s sleeping.
On the bright side, I did talk with his sister yesteday about he and I getting married in the courthouse. I was worried that his family would object since we do everything with them and they’ve treated me like family since day one. She calmed my nerves and said that they wouldn’t feel jipped, and that when he and I were talking about vacationing to Vegas, his mom told him he needed to propose to me while we were there, hit up the White Chapel, and she’d throw us a huge party when we got home.
So now that that worry is out of the way, I’m down for the courthouse as long as I can at least wear a cute dress, and as long as we have a massive family BBQ or something afterwards. Besides, most of my family is spread out across the Midwest and I seriously dread the logistics of trying to get everyone to come.
Post # 8
I am right there with you. When I read that, I seriously went “WTF?!!” And after the second book, I haven’t brought myself to read the third one yet….but I do wanna finish the series.
Post # 9
@flowersandfaerydust: I’m wondering myself if after that shenanigans I can read the third one. Not to mention that 97% of the reason I liked the first book was because of the “kinky f*ckery” and it’s completely going soft. LAME! If I wanted to read about my current sex life, I’d write a journal, LOL. I read to escape MY reality – which, I suppose is what’s happening since the books are so beyond reality. Really? 5 weeks?! *grumbles*
Post # 10
But, when he proposes, it won’t be because he wants to get married because he thinks it will somehow change/strengthen our relationship or commitment to each other. It’ll be because I want it, and it’s time.
This confuses me…can you clarify what you mean? You aren’t saying he’ll propose only ecause YOU want to get married, are you?
Regarding “50”…totally unrealistic and puke-inducing. He wanted to get married as a control thing so it was a little creepy. Then, after they’re married and they keep calling each other ‘Mr & Mrs Grey’??? WTF?? I just got married 2 weeks ago and while I’m enjoying changing my name and my DH is very happy I’m know as Mrs R***, I’d also want to vomit if he continually referred to me as that!
Post # 11
I’m already married, but I still went” Da fuck? ” when he proposed…then again he worships her soo much, I should of known!
Post # 12
@lorie: (Hard to explain, but stay with me…)
My SO and I have very open communication about marriage, what it constitutes for both of us, and the level of importance. Neither he and I are religious, so the spiritual tie that most people feel from getting married doesn’t pertain to us. That leaves the legal and social aspects of marriage. He doesn’t feel the need to “prove” to anyone that we are committed to each other, because our relationship is ours. He is committed the same whether it’s by a legal tie, or by the simple want to spend the rest of his life with me. In his mind, what’s mine is his, and his is mine. Any “asset”, for lack of a better word, is at my disposal. Marriage does not complete his life, it just legally titles it. I on the other hand need that social validation. In another post, I talk about my understanding of marriage and its social impact me as a woman. (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/why-we-cant-enjoy-anything-when-whe-are-waiting) He understands where I’m coming from and why I feel the way I do, and because it is important to me, its important to him. Does this make sense?
@Eva Peron: I thought about this too! I’m like, “ya, duh. Marriage is [to him] the ultimate form of possession.”