Never thought I would have wedding drama, but here it is! MOH acting up!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Lizzie123:  we could be related– sounds like my relationship with my sister. I would straight up tell her that youve wanted so-and-so to be you MOH all along, and if she cant accept that or get along with her, then she should step down. This is YOUR wedding, and it should go the way you wanted it to.

 

Post # 5
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757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I could have written the beginning of your post.  Except that, when I got engaged, she and I weren’t speaking after she told me she wanted no part of my life whatsoever.  She went on a wild temper-tantrum rampage and acted like I was some evil witch bc she had to find out through people through facebook.  wah wah wah.

Needless to say, she is not one of my bridesmaids. I think its BS when people say that your siblings need to be part of the wedding. If it were me? I would sit both my mother and sister down and tell them how childish they are being.  It’s YOUR wedding, and you’ll have who you want to have as your MOH- whether it’s one of them or both of them.  Your sister, honestly, doesnt sound like she can handle the responsibilities of being a maid of honor at all.

The whole situation sounds like unecessary drama that your sister is creating.  Personally, I’d giver her the boot altogether – I’m sorry you’re dealing with this!! Family can be the worst.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Lizzie123:  first, accept your sister’s offer not to repeat negative things she hears about you or your wedding. Second, tell her you asked her to serve as co-MOH and you still want her to fulfill the roll IF she can be happy in it. If she cant, tell her you will understand if she chooses to step down, but either way, the drama and angst over it stops now. 

Tell your mother to stop being your sister’s mouth piece as well And stop listening and reacting to gossip. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Lizzie123:  Heh, she said just have your bestie as your MOH, so I say do it! Your mum will likely be mad, but given that your mom apparently thinks siding with her psychotic beotch daughter is cool, so maybe she needs a little wakeup call. As for your sis, I am sure it will “damaga” the relationship, but there doesn’t appear to be much of one there anyhow, so it doesn’t seem like much of a loss.

Post # 9
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Newbee

@jasonkatie2014:  +1 “I think its BS when people say that your siblings need to be part of the wedding. If it were me? I would sit both my mother and sister down and tell them how childish they are being.  It’s YOUR wedding, and you’ll have who you want to have as your MOH- whether it’s one of them or both of them”

Post # 10
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Wow can totally relate to how you are feeling

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

I’m not engaged yet, but I know when I am, one drama filled decision will be whether to include my sister in the bridal party.

I doubt she’ll expect to be my MOH based on our relationship, but as my only sister, I expect she’ll assume to be a bridesmaid. I’m on the fence about it TBH. Some days I think that I will include her as she is my only sibling, plus I’d love to include SO’s younger sister and including his and not mine would be a massive slap in the face. But then again, she’s such a judgmental, selfish, pain in the arse, I’m not sure I’d cope with her drama during the wedding planning process.

Ugh.

So yeah. Sorry OP, no advice, but lots of sympathy.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

When I found out I was engaged, my sister (who I hadn’t spoken to in a few months) instantly called me and asked when she was gonna take me dress shopping. Mama passed away almost 8 years ago at that point so she was taking on the role of the mother. She wanted to be there as MotB and MOH. I told her she couldn’t be either, that I’d already chosen my MOH (had called my step-sister, who is more of a sister to me than my own, at that point) and she went behind my back and accused me of kicking her out before I even chose the rest of the party.

Needless to say, in amongst all the other crap she started, including bitching to my MOH about my lack of planning skills, I didn’t invite her to the wedding at all. My brother sided with her, and I was never going to invite my father to begin with, so there’s another two people off my list.

She said to you you may as well have just the one MOH, so take her up on that, and the whole “I won’t tell you when this happens” thing. From what you’ve said, chances are she started the whole thing anyway. You’re better off without all the drama.

I feel you sweetie! Chin up!

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