Post # 1
I don’t know how else to explain this, other than I am jealous of my mother.
my mother is divorced and recently re-connected with a guy she met about a year ago. She didn’t date him at the time declaring he wasn’t her type. Well now, After about two weeks of dating she announces they are getting married. Two weeks! i don’t know what to say. No ring has been bought for her and I feel like she’s blowing her whole situation out of proportion. I haven’t met this guy yet but i’ve seen all the lovey dovey stuff he posts all over her Facebook. she swears its true that they’re too be married in August 2014, she’s even started asking me for opinions on dresses. I know I should be happy for her, but I can’t help but be just a tad bit worried about her.. And what I think is a bit of jealousy – maybe a whole lot of jealousy. I find myself not wanting to return her texts! I feel petty for this. I actually told her once she has a ring I’ll celebrate with her. Which she ignored and continued to send me dress and hair piece pictures. This is terrible of me. She’s my mom! I should be unconditionally happy for her…
i think its just because I’ve been waiting for my big day for what feels like forever, my SO Says she’ll come around and realize she’s moving to fast, but I have a feeling she won’t. I guess I just thought I’d be the next to get married.
I know I know: I should just suck it up. Go to her place with cookies and coffee and just be happy for her like I’d want her to be for me. But man, it’s not easy.
I just had to get it out and rant since its not something the SO wants to hear about anymore
Post # 3
@Theonetime: Nah, I agree with you. I’d be worried and annoyed – not so much jealous.
If your date is right you’re saying your mom has decided to plan her wedding for 3 months before yours?! That’s just mean – if she had decided to get married in August 2013 (also worrisome but fitting with the whirlwind) I’d be less offended. The fact that she has chosen to take over your whole planning window with her whole wedding is really not very considerate of her.
Post # 4
@Theonetime: Hm it seems as though this is less about the time they dated and more about your feelings of jealousy. do you trust your mother to make the right decision? are you truly concerned she is “rushing” or do you feel jealous because your SO and you aren’t in that situation?
I think that this may be triggering a lot of emotions for you. Jealousy, perhaps anger at your own situation . Do you want to get engaged? I understand that it’s very activating, and i can imagine it would be! But if its not related to your mom (after some soul searching) try to be there for her during this happy time.
Good luck , i know it’s not easy ;-/
Post # 5
When you’re longing for an engagement of your m=own it’s difficult to hear about anyone else’s- let alone your mothers. In all honesty, I wouldn’t be jealous of her as much as I’d be concerned. I think that in your situation I would also hold off celebrating until I saw a ring. I hope she isn’t getting her hopes up.
As for your engagement, it’ll come. I’m a true believer that everything happens for a reason. It’ll happen when it’s suppose to happen and it’ll be a beautiful time for you.