Never would have thought… Need advice.

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would get off BCP no less than 3-6 months before the wedding. It can take some people a LONG time to get those hormones out of your system and get back to normal. Still use condoms if you want to avoid pregnancy before the wedding, but ditch the BCP as soon as you are comfortable doing so.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I would actually advise the opposite. Getting off BC was not a picnic, and one has no way of knowing what the experience will be like until she actually does it. My boobs hurt constantly, I was having insane dreams, I was more emotional than usual, etc. I would not want to go through that experience AND be just a few months from my wedding date (aka wanting to look and feel my best). Unless you actually know that you have a fertility problem or are in your late 30s+, there is no reason to believe that some unknown fertility issue on your Dad’s side of the family will be a problem for you. For all you know, they all happened to marry men with fertility issues! Stick to your current plan and open up the lines of communication with your SO so that you can both get comfortable with a timeline that is right for both of your goals and needs. In the mean time, focus on your wedding plans, being healthy, and building your nest egg for the future. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@TeachTennessee:  I was on BCP from about 19 until this past April – so about 18 years total. I, thankfully, was pretty good to go after 1 or 2 cycles. I know some people take months to get back in to a regular pattern.

Glad to hear you’re thinking about charting as well. I love it! It’s so nice to know what is going on with my body. And it gives the doctor loads of information in case you do have trouble conceiving.

I see your screen name – I take it you are a teacher? Me too! 9th grade English 🙂

Post # 9
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7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

@TeachTennessee:  I don’t think that there really is a way to predict. I had no problems going on, but coming off sucked a bit. It wasn’t sucky enough to go back on, mind you. I just know that the period of time leading up to my wedding would definitely have been a bad time for me to intentionally roll the dice with my body. I was stressed enough as it was.

Post # 10
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sometimes I wish I got off BCP before our wedding, just because I’m not pregnant yet – but when I look back I’m glad I was still on it for our wedding.  I never had really bad acne, but after I got off the pill I would have a lot more acne – even alot more stress pimples which I never got while on the pill. My boobs have been sore 90% of the time since I went off the pill. Stress leading up to the wedding is bad enough – I am glad I didnt have the added stress of my body trying to regulate without the pill. 

I would advise to stop taking it the day of your wedding and then get ready for the wild ride!   

Post # 12
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2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@TeachTennessee:  I would wait until after the wedding to get off BC. If you’ve been on it that long your body may take a while to self-regulate and I would personally hate to be in the middle of unpredictable periods and hormonal changes (read breakouts and mood swings) before the wedding. Plus, if you want until after the wedding you can still adjust your bc and period so it won’t hit on your honeymoon, otherwise your could be sol….. 

When I got off hormonal bc (I have a copper paraguard IUD now so no hormones) I had been on it for nearly 10 years straight and it took my body at least 3-4 months to get back to normal. I’m talking 3-4 months of the worst breakouts ever, crazy periods that came whenever they damn well pleased, and horrible mood swings…. 

Post # 14
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1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@TeachTennessee:  Good idea! I stayed on mine through our honeymoon too.  Went off it a week after we got home!

Post # 15
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2537 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

1.  You probably don’t have fertility issues.  I don’t know that for sure but if you aren’t overweight or you didn’t have period issues (irregularity, too painful, etc) before going on birth control, you’re likely fine.

2.  If you’re so emotional about having children right this second, I could potentially see that you might not have the wherewithal to last until marriage without getting pregnant.  Justifying condomless sex will be easy.

What I suggest is just waiting until you get married to come off the pill, not any sooner.  During this period prior to your wedding, do everything in your power to get as healthy as possible–start eating better, limit your drinking, reduce caffeine, take prenatal vitamins, lose/gain weight if you need to, and implement an exercise plan.  Look at your budget and consider whether you want to stay-at-home permanently after having children.  Many women find that they want to stay home but can’t afford to.  If it’s something that you could see happening, then start living on one paycheck now and put your wages into savings/paying off debt.

Good luck!  I know that feeling you have (the overwhelming desire to procreate) and I can say most assuredly, that it does fade a bit.  It may not feel like that right now but it will fade, just don’t give into it before you’re 100% ready.

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