(Closed) New bee!

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It’s beautiful! I wouldn’t think of it as a huge deal, but I could understand why you wouold be uncomfortable. I would focus more on the fact that it was your grandmother’s than the fact that your stepmom wore it. Is it your dream ring?

Post # 4
2654 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2007

@Maressa:  that is an unusual situation.. Maybe you could add engraving to the shank to personalize it, so it doesn’t look like the ring that’s been on her finger all threse years? 

Post # 6
5405 posts
Bee Keeper

Wow that is unusual. It’s weird your grandma left it to you and you didn’t know and she’s been wearing it. I wouldn’t be happy about that at all. 

How about resetting it?

Post # 7
9552 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Use it!!! I love that it’s your grandmother’s ring! And it’s free. And it’s a beautiful ring! I’d just try to think of it as your grandmother’s ring, not your step mother’s ring. Maybe a new setting would make it more your own?

Post # 9
741 posts
Busy bee

Girl, that is YOUR ring- you’re grandmother wanted YOU to have it. I don’t even know if I could wear someones ring “until they got engaged”. You shouldn’t even be in this situation. Just burn some sage around it or cleanse it in salt water and reclaim it! Hold it in your hands and visualize your grandmother full of love and light handing it to you :-).

I agree on the engraving for now, and when you can get the pave (for an anniversary or something…).

Post # 10
132 posts
Blushing bee

Are you worried about your step mum causing some issues about giving the ring back? While I completely agree that you should have it and wear it proudly, I think you should remember that this ring was given to her by the man she loves and it’ll be hard to say good bye to (even if she is aware that the ring is rightfully yours and will go to you when you get engaged). I think tread carefully, have your boyfriend speak to your father about it. I know that you don’t like her or get along with her, but at the moment and in her eyes it is her ring and she has worn it lovingly and proudly just as you will. It’s unfortunate that she didn’t receive a different ring from the beginning but hopefully it’ll all go smoothly and by the end of the year you’ll have your grand mother’s beautiful and classic ring on your finger! 🙂

Oh and congrats for the future! 

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