- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
New bee, here. Hello to all!
A short bit about me and my FI. We were engaged just this past 21 November. Both of us are older (me, 43, him, 56) and have been married before. We (mostly me)are going back and forth between a small (50 or so) wedding and just eloping. If we have a wedding, it will be an outdoor/ranch/horse theme, and he will be wearing wranglers, boots, a coat and tie and cowboy hat. That’s him, and I am in love with him just that way. I DO NOT want to change this.
Either way, I want to wear a lovely dress – which is where this post comes in and I need advice. So…
Just after we got engaged, I visited three dress shops here in Reno – David’s, Alfred Angelo and a small boutique store which carried Maggie Sottero, Essence of Australia, Mon Cherie, among others. I went by myself, as I am fussy over how things fit, and I didn’t want to drag my friends along for THAT ride. My plan is to pick out a few/several dresses and then go back for opinions.
At David’s there were two dresses that I really did like on me – but the Oleg Cassini CWG464 is just darling, and would fit the part in a western theme.
Oleg Cassini CWG464:
There were five (really?) dresses at the boutique store that are contenders. But the Maggie Sottero Adelaide made. me. cry. Seriously. Up to that point, I had been picking each dress apart, alternately saying get this off my body or, meh, this one’s not too bad… But she laced me into the Adelaide and I looked in the mirror and I just lost it.
Maggie Sottero Adelaide:
I am fairly little (5’1/2”) but by no means thin (size 8/10, depending). I am large busted (34 D/DD) – which I feel can make me look fat. Most bras these days are padded – and I really DO NOT need anything extra up top, so I will not be choosing to wear a foundation. The Adelaide, it’s beautiful. I look beautiful in it. I look TINY in it. It made me dang cry. With the exception of the hem, it wouldn’t have to be altered. But it’s not quite the look I’m going for.
The Oleg. It’s beautiful. I love it for what it is – and the overall look that it would convey. I look pretty good in it. It would have to be altered (either hips let out just a bit – or bust taken in, depending on what size I order). It doesn’t have a corset back – which I really would prefer, so it would need that added. And I only tried it on with a bra that didn’t really fit (hello back fat) – so I can’t say how it will look with no foundation.
The two dresses are 180 degrees different from each other. Both dresses are approximately $1,000. The Oleg will probably end up costing more, with alterations and definitely with changing to a corset back.
Here’s my dilemma:
- I’m worried about quality. But I don’t know why. I’m going to be in this dress for – what – maybe 8 hours? Is a dress from David’s really so much lower quality (construction wise) for me to be fretting and stressing over something I’m going to be wearing for eight hours?
- The Maggie salves my ego. As someone who has struggled with feeling/being fat for, oh, 38 years, this dress just makes me feel lovely. But if I am honest with myself, the Oleg would just look so sweet next to wranglers and a cowboy hat.
- If I added a corset to the Oleg, would I get a better fit than with a zipper?
I guess I’m just worried that I won’t look as good in the Oleg as I do in the Maggie. I am so torn. Stressing. Need advice, please. I do not have pics of me in either dress (maybe this weekend I can manage) – but whatever advice you all can lend at this moment would be great.