new bee, e-ring insecurities

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

Size is all anyone else is likely to notice. So it’s up to you. Though I would say, many of us larger fingered ladies (mine is a 9) survive with stones under 1ct somehow  it’s not really as a big a deal as you’re making it in your mind.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  Taiki.
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

usually the large stone you go with you,  probably don”t want to go below SI1 and maybe an Si2 but you defintely want to see the stone.  As far as a large finger I wear a size 9.5 and on a hot and humid day a size 10.  I have a singe cushion cut solitare that is 1.01 carats.  It is fine for my finger. 

Perhaps if you want a big stone but don’t want to break the bank, consier replacing your center stone with a Moissy.  It will be much cheaper, you will still have a beautiful ring and you can still go big. 

Or you could just say this the next time someone comments on your ring”’ that’s my rings birthmark and I love it.. SO GET OVER IT!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Also, how often do you clean your ring? That may help to make it sparkle more, you would be suprised what gets wedged under your diamondd like skin, soap, lotion etc that can impact your diamoinds ability to shine.  Soak it overnight in some dawn dishwashing liquid with distlled water, even add a splash of windex…

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

While I personally wouldn’t go for an SI2, I think the main problem here is your rude family. Making comments about flaws in your ring is just beyond tacky, I would put them in their place before swapping my ring.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

I should say ‘anyone else’ is obviously not addressing your family, who are being weirdly rude about it. “Well I like it” would probably be my (polite) reply (“F-of”f is another useful retort). 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Lizzietish88:  Its up to you. It seems like the quality bothers you. You could look into Moissys or Morganite, or even Sapphires. Unless you want a diamond in that same size and better quality, you are going to be spending a lot of money and will need to save up for it. 

For me, I wanted a diamond, and I know that they are very over priced. I wanted a nice quality diamond more than a bigger stone. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Lizzietish88: yikes. I’d just keep it as clean as can be to encourage sparkles and then save up for a 10 or 15 year upgrade if the feather really bothered me. You can always save your original stone for your daughter or FDIL since it likely won’t be worth much as a resale. 

Do you know if the store you bought it from has an upgrade policy? 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

You could also sell your current stone and use the money toward a nicer diamond of the same size…. I recommend looking into Hearts on Fire

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i don’t look closely at other’s erings,  before or after i was engaged. 

if you love you ring, that is all that matters. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

Lizzietish88:  A feather like than in an I2 clarity is a huge risk for cracking. That kind of inclusion at that grade means it could affect the structural integrity of the diamond. I’m sorry, but I would be worried that isn’t a forever stone and I would change it for that reason alone. I know you don’t want to size down, but maybe consider moissanite?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

What kind of stone is it?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your diamond is very included, no question. But there are far worse things in life than included diamonds – crushing debt at the start of a marriage comes to mind. If you have the money for a new stone, get it. But >2ct round brilliant is going to cost 25k+ if you want a good stone. Nothing wrong with smaller or fancy cut (which are less $$ than round)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Lizzietish88:  I personally LOOOOOOVE inclusions 🙂 As long as the stone isn’t in danger of breaking along a fault line, I’m all about it 🙂 I love this sort of emerald, for example, MUCH more than a flawless one 🙂http://preciousgemswholesale.com/19.05%20ct%20natural%20brazil%20emerald.jpg

I had mentioned that to my fella before, and he got me a beautiful stone, with a couple of adorable little coal specks you can see from the side.  I love it, and it’s MINE 🙂  I would miss them if they were gone.

Your ring is beautiful, and all that matters is if YOU love it!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Lizzietish88:  I agree, since you’re better educated now in diamonds, I too would be bothered. What I would do, if I couldn’t really swing or justify a diamond large enough to make me happy, I would replace it with a moissy that you can apppreciate every time you look at it.

It seems to me that your enjoyment of the stone is now gone and you will never unsee the flaws. Sorry you’re disappointed. 

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