- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Hi everyone! 🙂
I am a new member here but have been checking out the waiting boards for several months now. Last night must have been the night that I just felt compelled enough to register and then vent today and was hoping for some much needed input. (My friends and family are kind of sick of me talking about this all the time, lol, but I know that many of you can relate!)
Just a quick intro…I have been with my boyfriend (oh how I loathe that juvenile word) since Sep 2008, we know that we are the ones for each other, and we have discussed marriage, children, where we want to live, etc., but I am STILL waiting for him to pop the question, and quite frankly, I am sick of everyone on the planet and his/her mother asking me if I am engaged yet! He is 28 and I am 25, so I know I may be slightly paranoid, but based on medical statistics, fertility has already started to decline for the two of us, lol, and since I want to do things “in order,” I want to get the ball rolling. I know that two and a half years (and 3 months and 1 week and 1 day and 13 hours and two minutes) of waiting may not seem like a long time for some (I feel horrible for those who have to wait 5-10 years), but I feel that if you know, then WHY wait??
A couple months after we met, he professed his love to me by saying: “I am in love with you and am going to marry you one day” (I was so ecstatic and happy). He then moved in with me in December 2008 (my parents and 3 younger siblings left the state for my dad’s job and I got the house for a year or so, but like many articles I have read before, I thought living together meant a step closer to marriage, but he probably thought of the convenience). So then, after one of my sisters moved back in, we moved out and got our own place in Aug 2009. That’s when I started hearing the expression “Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?” O. M. G. I thought I had RUINED and/or DELAYED everything!, but then on New Year’s of 2010 he said he “will propose to me this year.” ..Well, needless to say, that was more than 18 months ago… wah wah
I go through so many emotional phases with this that I never know what to do! I accidentally came across a text the other day (I promise it was by accident. He left his phone at home, and I was looking for clues to where he was or if he needed me to call his friend, then I saw a cute pet pic from his sister who lives in another state, and then above it I saw THE TEXT.) It said something like: “So when is it time for you to announce some BIG news? I don’t want to hear about it on Facebook. Even a text will suffice.” So OBVIOUSLY I was THRILLED!! But the text was from about 3 weeks ago…sooooo, why the hold up??? Ahhh I am going crazy. To top it all off, we BOTH have the worst ADD in the world. Classic, text-book case, diagnosed by multiple doctors, type of ADD, lol. (Haha our kids will have a 75% chance of getting it too, lol, great).. So anyway, I am just worried that he has literally FORGOTTEN about the whole thing. He asked me to show him some ring pics in MARCH (!!)- and THAT is why I need to light a fire under his arse! But I never wanted to be (or thought I would ever be) one of “those pushy girlfriends.” My plan was to wait until our 3-year in Sep this year for him to sh*t or get off the pot, but I have now decided that if he doesn’t do it by then, then *I* will! I have already looked at nice watches, and I am going to get “Will you marry me?” engraved on the inside part, and when I take him to a pretty beach or other intimate setting, I will give it to him, ask him to try it on, and get down on one knee when he sees the engraving. :):)
Wow, sorry for the long post! I know that was a lot! LOL. But I would be super appreciative for any and all advice or thoughts/comments on all of this. Should I bring it up to him? HAS he forgotten?? Should I propose if he doesn’t?? Thank you bees in advance!! :):)