- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
I’ve been lurking for a bit, and thought I’d finally contribute. 🙂
This post goes in the money section, I think. I was reading a post on here about requirements before marriage (can’t remember what section it’s in though) and am impressed by how many people have things figured out for themselves. 🙂 I appreciate all the maturity here, so that’s great.
I guess I had to vent a little, though. For some people, certainly not all, but for a few, there’s definitely a stigma attached to the idea of getting married when you’re more or less broke or living paycheck to paycheck. There are definitely a lot of people who are getting into their marriages this way and not being smart about it at all, as in, just responding to that fairy tale infatuation thing and not even talking to their FI (that’s fiancee/fiance, right?) about finances, just assuming things will be okay … or opening up credit cards and taking out loans left and right, again, with no consideration about their financial future. (Credit cards and loans really don’t bother me at all provided the couple has a plan for paying them back and is ready to live appropriately until then.)
Anyway, I’m one of those brides … my FH is still in undergrad (with plans to obtain a PhD), and I have my BA but will be pursuing my Master’s in the coming year. He is unemployed (currently job-seeking) but earns some pocket change here and there when he has the occasional graphic design job, or when someone in his family is feeling generous … I’m currently working as a full time bank teller for $9, and can rarely even afford to get a fridge full of my own groceries after rent, electricity, cell phone (paying for mother and I, long story) gas, and other bills. Certainly there’s no money for fun!
But, we’re getting married in May, anyway. I guess that post about “requirements before marriage” really spoke to me. I certainly wouldn’t want both of us to still be in undergrad, and I certainly wouldn’t want both of us to be unemployed. But for all the young couples who rush into it, there are a few out there who are doing it anyway after thinking very long and very hard and determining that really? I just want God and everyone else to know that you’re my husband and I’m your wife.
We have a clear, concise idea of exactly how we’ll manage married life. We have an EXTREMELY supportive family who we view as role models. And as far as getting the wedding to pull together?
Somehow … it’s just happening. We’re extremely creative and are surrounded by extremely creative people and nearly every element of our wedding is going to be thrifted, handmade, donated, or discounted. My dress: A gift from my dad. The photography: free. Videography: free. Centerpieces: Handmade from thrifted antiques and stuff found in the basement. Flowers: Discounted from a bank customer. Hair: Free. Makeup: Free, cause I’ll do it. 🙂 Bridesmaids dresses: Less than $50 each from Forever 21. And the list goes on …
I don’t know … I guess what I’m saying is that I want to be an example of the old saying of “Where there’s a will, there’s a way!” My FH grandparents just celebrated their 50th anniversary. They said they each had about $10 to their names after the wedding.
Anyway, I’m really inspired by everyone here, so I’m happy to be a new poster. If I do manage to really contribute anything, I hope it can be fun, creative ways to design a beautiful wedding on a very, very tight budget. 🙂