New Bee needs help! Guest list Crisis! PLEASE REPLY!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you can’t afford a 150 person party, don’t invite 150 people. It’s one day, don’t let it put you in debt when you are just starting off.

Post # 5
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MrsKrystalClark:  Have you already sent out save the dates to all 150 guests?

If not, then I’d cut the guest list.  It’s not worth the stress and expense.

If you have already sent the STDs, cut open bar (just have beer and wine), choose cheaper entres, cut back on hors’devours (I know i spelled that word all kinds of wrong), cut the reception short by an hour to save on all the vendors, if possible.  Try to cut any extras. 

Post # 6
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6510 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MrsKrystalClark:  don’t feel obligated to invite people just because they invited you. I personally would much rather have a honeymoon and move to a nicer neighborhood versus having a large wedding. Cut your guest list! Only invite people you are close to versus those that you feel you need to invite (I know that is easier said than done).

Post # 7
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@MrsKrystalClark:  Cut the guest list.  It’s the quickest and easiest way to save money on pretty much every aspect of your budget.  Write all of the names down and then rank them in three lists: 1) Must Invite because they are immediate family or friends so close they are family; 2) Would Like to Invite because they are family/friends we hang out with at least 2-3 times a year; and 3) Might Invite if there is enough money and space because they invited us to their wedding, they are co-workers that you do not hang out with outside of work, they are people you see once a year or less.

Drop everyone on the Might Invite List for now and revisit it later if you have a lot of declines.  Just because someone invites you to their wedding doesn’t mean you have to invite them to yours.  I recommend inviting 100 and expecting approximately 80 to RSVP yes.

Post # 8
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@MrsKrystalClark:  Just because someone invited you to their wedding doesn’t mean you need to invite them to yours.  If anyone asks, just say you wanted to keep it small and intimate.  Plenty of people have small weddings, and not just for budget reasons.  It seems more and more common these days to have a downsized guest list.

Post # 9
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1553 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say cut the list. We had a fairly small wedding, about 75 people or so, and it worked out great for us. We still had the things we wanted, and all of the people we wanted to be there, were still invited. I know that when I was planning our wedding, it’s easy to get carried away inviting people, because you don’t want anyone to feel left out. However, I found that we had people on the list that we weren’t really even close with, so they ended up being cut. Good luck! 🙂

Post # 13
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1553 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsKrystalClark:  I believe we invited around 95, but only had 75-80 that were able to come. We’re so glad we went with the smaller group! 🙂 I had DIY projects and things too, much easier to manage when you’re making things for a smaller group!

Post # 14
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4410 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I completely understand your desire to invite evereyone who invited you to their weddings, etc., but it’s totally not worth it! DO NOT put yourselves under any kind of fiancial stress for the wedding — nothing is worth that. Your friends will definitely understand that you’re having a small wedding and therefore couldn’t have as big a guest ilst as you might have wanted. 

Post # 16
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I love the 3rd one!

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