(Closed) “New Fashioned Engagement?”

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Congratulations in advance!!  I would be going CRAZY trying to wait until Thursday… like a kid before Christmas!!

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think the way you’ve planned it is rather romantic and definitely very special.  I’m so excited for you!

Jim bought my engagement ring the day we went looking for one, and he proposed to me in the car and gave it to me that same day.  haha!  Definitely not traditional…he didn’t get down on one knee, but it was still nice and I think it makes kind of a cute story.

I can’t wait to see the pictures of your ring and to hear all the details afterwards. I wouldn’t be surprised if he has a couple of surprises up his sleeve that he hasn’t talked to you about!!!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

That’s so exciting! Congrats!! I can’t wait to hear how it goes!!

I had one of those “traditional” proposals.  I had NO IDEA it was coming!  We were together for abour 4 years and long distance the whole time (a few hours apart) so I figured it would be when I am finished with my internship in NYC January 2011 & the plan was to move in with him in CT.  We didn’t talk about marriage much, didn’t talk about rings, nothing…although it was on my mind & I really thought it would be new years 2011 (the 5 year anniversary from when we met).  That’s what happens when I plan my proposal in my head without discussing it πŸ™‚  It was the best surprise of my life.

I do like the idea of picking out the ring together & missed out on that but I’m happy with my ring so it’s fine!

Make sure to post details when it happens!! Congrats again!!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@aberry: Wow! That’s a gorgeous ring!!  I would have been peeing my pants in anticipation of getting to wear it!!!!

I don’t remember feeling like bouncing up and down when he was buying it, but I was very excited. I just asked Jim, and he said he doesn’t remember me jumping up and down. Maybe I was inside.

He did make me wait a while. We were having dinner in Grand Rapids, which is about 35 minutes from where we live. My ring was in its little box, inside another little box, inside a bag all the way to Grand Rapids, and it remained in there while we found a spot to park in the parking ramp.

Once we parked, he took the box that held my ring out of the bag and the other box. and as he held the little box, he asked if I was going to wear it in the restaurant, and I pointed out that he hadn’t asked me yet. That’s when he opened the box, and said “will you marry me?” to which I immediately said “yes!” and he put my ring on my finger.

Let me tell you, I was bouncing up and down then, and gushing and excited, and I think I told just about every person who would listen that we were engaged!

You definitely better post pictures after.  I’m sure I’m not the only one who wants to see it with the center stone in place!!!!  I’m so happy for you!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@Loribeth: You definitely better post pictures after.  I’m sure I’m not the only one who wants to see it

I second that!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

You’re right I was thinking about it but not that much because he would always say that we can’t get engaged while we’re long distance and he wanted to be “stable” so I tried not to think about it because I pretty much knew it wouldnt happen yet.  I did have a breakdown once about not being engaged..because his friend got engaged to his girlfriend of 1 year and I remember calling my mom & friend up crying because we have been together for almost 4 years and she had only been with him for just a year (my fiance didn’t know about my breakdown).  Little did I know, my fiance was planning the proposal since he knew he was closing on his house (way before his friend got engaged). 

Thank you! Yeah we’re still long distance until January..we have been since we met because we were both in school in different states and we always moved at the same time but never to the same area!

I want to hear more about this unofficial proposal!!  That would make me crazy too if it almost happened but then I had to wait.  That’s great that you set a wedding date because venues get booked fast! I can’t wait to see your ring on your finger with the center stone!!  It’s gorgeous!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You’re lucky, that sounds just about perfect to me!  My own proposal was sort of like that (maybe a little less romantic) – I knew when he bought the ring and he proposed shortly after it arrived, which is what I expected him to do.

I think the vast majority of proposals aren’t a true surprise for the woman anymore.  Maybe the exact details of how he does it are a surprise, but 95% of the time, the woman knows that it’s eventually coming.  Nearly everyone I know has been talking about it before hand, and/or the woman has been “pushing” for it for a while and starting to get tired of waiting for it (including me).  A proposal that’s truly “out of the blue” seems like the rare exception among my friends.

Once a couple has been together a few years or more, it can’t really be that much of a surprise, can it?  When I read about guys who drag out the engagement process because they “want it to be a surprise” – it kind of makes me roll my eyes because if she’s already waiting for it, how much of a surprise can it be?  Just make it nice for her and get on with it.  Guys who want it to be a surprise – that means do it early on, like in the first year or two max!  BEFORE she’s had to start “talking about it” with you!  Ok rant over.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yay!! How exciting! Just wanted to say congrats…hope this week flies by for you. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

This is so exciting!! You better check back in with us next week and share the story and pictures!   

I also agree with @prettyflowers:rarely is a proposal a true surprise. This seems like a great way to get engaged and you both have a say in the ring, talking to your parents, and the evening. Enjoy every second of it!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

CONGRATS!! nothing wrong with planning it all out together!! Thats marriage life anyway isnt it? I’ve seen friends spend incredible amounts of money on traditional proposals, whatever works for them, ive personally always felt that traditional isnt always as personal as a nontraditional proposal would be. my man and i had been talking about proposing/marriage for quite a while but we wanted our debt gone first. he proposed while we were wandering around a random town(we do this often). ive had friends comment about how it wasnt romantic or spectacular but i thougth it was AWESOME! his words were “ive been shot at, been standing next to exploding grenades, knocked out cold by big army guys(he is former military), and have never been worried about going out and doing my job but for some reason i was so nervous about this i couldnt sleep for days even tho I knew you would say yes anyway” i melted.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

Congrats in advance and I can’t wait to see your post next week.

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