Post # 1
I just wanted to introduce myself. My name is Danielle and I am very new here. I have been engaged since Nov 2011 and set to be married Sept. 2013. Very excited, I am marrying my college sweetheart and bestfriend, David. The day we get married will also be 10 years that we have been together. Its crazy how time flies.
I also must admit, I had been using TheKnot, and I have come to WeddingBee because I have read some of the posts, and I feel the women on here are alot more supportive than the women of TheKnot. Has anyone else ever experienced this with TK? Or am I just borderline crazy? I mean lets face it, in today’s day and age, traditional weddings are not so traditional. Women today are all about being unique, and thats ok! Isn’t it? TheKnot is all about being proper, and following rules and if you don’t you are a horrible bride. I haven’t personally been attacked, but I don’t like seeing other brides being attacked. So I left. With the time I have left until my wedding, which is not very much, I hope to get as much helpful advice as I can, and I hope that I am able to give advice also and help other upcoming brides!!
Post # 3
I have had so much great advice here and support from other bees.
Enjoy your time here and happy planning!
Post # 4
Hi and Welcome to the Hive!
Post # 5
@Daizy914: Welcome! and congrats on the up coming wedding! I also find that the people of TK are very rude to me they feel like the rich snobs of the wedding boards, they are “always rite, you are always wrong, rude, and have no clue…” not everyone will be on your side for every topic but i feel the Bees here understand much better where you are coming from and are supportive in your favor and also in their opinion that you may not be in favor of.
My views on weddings are that its your day, why not do what you want, its not the renaissance era any longer, your daddy doesn’t have to give you away, you dont need something blue, nor 5 brides maids to keep the evil spirits away from ruining your day… do what you love and it will be perfect
Post # 6
@AndysCraftsnmore— thank you! I agree that not everyone will agree with what I have or other brides have to say. And yes, its your wedding, why can’t women do what they want? LoL, if they are happy, isn’t that what matters?
What made me really leave was the name calling. A bride had asked what is an “acceptable gap during a wedding”?
Look–gaps can be annoying, but we don’t live in a perfect world. Me, personally, I have a 2 1/2 hr gap. Let me give you the breakdown of why that is.
1) Ceremony is at 3pm. Expected to run about 30-35 mins. By the time we exit the church and say see you later to the guests that came to the ceremony, it will be almost 4. Ok. Guests need to go home, freshen up, snack lightly because …
2)Cocktail hour is at 6pm. Now, the 2hr gap I have, I want to take pictures during that gap so I can mingle with my guests at the cocktail hour. My wedding is very local! Which is great for all my guests- NO TRAFFIC! No need to book a hotel, etc..
3) I was told by the ladies at the knot that I “need a new circle of friends” because I said not everyone attends the ceremony. This made me livid. I get that the ceremony is the most important part, but maybe something happened that they couldn’t make it to the ceremony. Maybe they didn’t want to go to the church and go back home just to leave again to go to the reception. I get it, and I understand. I’m only expecting my family to be there. The ladies of the knot also said that they would skip the entire wedding because there was a gap! REALLY? I think they are a bit dramatic.
I am sorry to be venting about this but they are reallllly mean. LoL
Post # 7
I found the same thing when I was at the Knot as well, but I am thankful for the awesome community here at the Bee boards. You will find a lot of support. We are fair on these boards. Your wedding is your wedding, and you do what you want to do. If you ask for advice we will give you honest advice.
Hope you enjoy it here. I’ve been married almost a year, and I still find reasons to come back here 🙂
Post # 8
Welcome to the Hive, and best wishes on your wedding!
Post # 9
I hope you enjoy it here and find the bees to be helpful! 🙂
Post # 10
@Daizy914: *HUGS* sorry you had such a bad experience with your post. I personally think having the time to mingle at your own cocktail hour is totally worth it, especially since your guests are local and are able to go home/do whatever. I’ve never been on the knot other than to use their budget/checklist tool, but I think everyone here is pretty civil and respectful (WB is not troll proof though). Although, beware of the moissy vs diamond threads lol.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Welcome. I’ve been using both but after being attacked last week because we’re having 2 weddings due to a job loss I’m so over the knot. Yes all my guests know we had a civil ceremony before our feb wedding, and they are still 100% excited to celebrate with us. I dont need bitter people in my life.
Welcome welcome 🙂
Remember traditions are what you make important in your life not what someone else dictates is important.
Post # 13
@Daizy914: i can see how some people wouldn’t want to go to the ceremony if religious, or if they just cant get the kids ready in time, blabla… or they have something else they need to get done, hey everyone works and maybe there early morning they could really get something done- but then again how often does someone they know get married….so i can really see both views – i wouldn’t be mad at someone if they didn’t show for one or the other, i was to one wedding were there was a 2 1/2hr break and i hated it, i was 16 at the time and wasn’t aloud to do anything else that day until the reception, went home and played my Nintendo till then,was stuck in a dress all day – older people got it, me personally i didn’t want my people to wait so we are doing our photos before hand (ours is at an outdoor museum) our guests have the options to wonder the park and look at things but im not going to fill them in on that id rather them be at my wedding, if they want to go back another day that’s up to them – i mean im paying good money for the wedding i would rather then be there..
@dewingedpixie: I was thinking about doing the 2 wedding thing also, going to jp and getting married on paper, for benefits and finical reasons then still doing a white wedding a year later (we have most things with deposits and some already paid for) please fill me in on what you did for yours 🙂 my family ive told so far is downing my idea and i need some help…
Post # 14
Welcome to the Bee!
It’s funny how different people percieve differnt sites. I’ve never been a part of TK, but I’ve heard from other Bees that it can be kind of stuffy and less than supportive. I love the Bee, but definitely wouldn’t consider it a hot spot for the ultra “unique” or “out there”, as a generalization. I’m also on Offbeat Bride, you might check them out too 🙂
That being said, I get excellent advice here and I hope you do too 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
@AndysCraftsNmore: We had no intentions of doing 2 weddings. I lost my job and I have a contingent offer that wont start for a few more weeks but I have to maintain medical coverage due to medical problems. We took one look at cobra and said oh hell no. Turns out most of our family expected we’d do a civil ceremony before the destination wedding.
For our civil ceremony we just wore nice clothes and went to the national battlefield park. We had an officient come and do a non religious ceremony. We had a picnic with my daughter, my parents, and two of my friends that are like sisters.
We ran this by family and friends first so they do know we got married before the big wedding. So there are no shockers here, this isnt a give us stuff gab because we dont want presents we want people to come make memories with us. We did very little for this ceremony we even got stand in bands we will get final ones for the big one. The big one will have christian readings and a hand fasting, we didnt do either here. The big one we’re presenting my daughter with a gift, we did not do that here.
Post # 16
@AndysCraftsNmore: your wedding sounds awesome!! That is a cool idea to have your reception at a museum.
I do feel bad that my guests have a 2 hr gap, but I figured that some people wouldn’t go to the ceremony (and I wouldn’t hold it against them). I also figure that since the reception is less than a 15 min drive, it gives people a chance to go home, freshen up. I have never been to a wedding where there wasn’t a gap, so I just thought this was normal? I hope my guests won’t hate me after the wedding LoL