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posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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212 posts
Helper bee

Welcome! My SO and I have only been together for 11 months so I can relate to your anxiousness about ‘waiting’ in such a short (relatively speaking) relationship. It’s just so exciting when you have finally found the one you want to build a life with! 🙂

You might want to look into the Shut-It-Up Pact thread on the waiting boards… lots of bees post on there to support each other with not bringing up engagement/marriage in their relationship.

Post # 4
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795 posts
Busy bee

@berrynuttyfarm:  Welcome!!! I can relate. I am 33, we’ve been together 13 months, and it feels great to finally know! I don’t talk to him about marriage, I want it to come 100% from him. Come to the other bees for support though, we always want o talk about it! 😀 

Post # 5
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

Welcome to the waiting hive!

I would suggest reading ‘Mr. Bees Advice’, which is really just good advice about how to live your live in general.  Also, ‘How to Handle the Waiting Period’ so that you don’t become a crazy waiting lady Smile

See you around!

Post # 7
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

He already has 3kids, but do you want to have children with him? (just wondering if that’s why you’re antsy to get engaged soon)

Post # 9
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@berrynuttyfarm:  ….Just another thing Smile

“I mention things about marriage and engagement periodically, but I really want to just shut up about it”

Okay about this—You should not simply ‘mention’ things ‘periodically’….you need to have an honest discussion about what you want.  Get a timeline, make sure he’s on the same page….

Then join our local ‘Shut it up pact’ which is here to help you real in your inner crazy waiting anxiety (those of us on the blog have it) to our SOs, Coworkers, Family, etc (rules are listed on the first page).

Good Luck!

Post # 12
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@berrynuttyfarm:  Well then it sounds like you are on track!!  I just worry because some bees come on here and they might have said something casually about getting married but they’ve never had ‘the talk’ and they are just blindly waiting.  I’m glad that you have!!

Hang in there!

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