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hi i'm also new here! i completely understand what you are going through. i moved from my parents to be closer to my boyfriend 4 years ago, they live in delaware and i live in mass. i thought the exact same thing about moving with my boyfriend showed commitment, but apparently he didn't get that. we've been together 5.5 years now (as of yesterday!) and still no ring. it's so painful for me to be far away from my family, but close to his. i've had my fair share of arguments over my friends getting engaged and only being with their boyfriends for a year or 2 and here i am, moved up to mass to be with him 4 years ago and he still doesn't think about getting married. he's the slowest person in the whole world to do anything, he never likes taking a chance.
i was afraid that my boyfriend was going to say the same thing about the "saving for a ring". i don't really care if my boyfriend buys a diamond and in all honesty, i would prefer he didn't only because of the cost issue. i gave him information from a woman on etsy who makes gorgeous white sapphire rings that are really budget.
i hope that your boyfriend finally realizes how much you put into your relationship and finally asks you!
Hi guys! Welcome to the hive, you will love it here, everyone is soooo supportive. Feel free to vent here any time you want, it really helps!
welcome! i've been here only a couple of weeks, but have found this to be an amazing place! good place to vent, get advice, and even just laugh about things....
Hello ladies and welcome :) I know waiting is hard to do, but when the time is right you will get your fairy tale proposal complete with the perfect ring!
Welcome to both of you. I do understand why he wants to wait so that he doesn't go into debt for the ring. Maybe he is afraid that he won't have enough money for the wedding either with his mother being sick?
Welcome Boston girl! You are very sweet to move for your boyfriend but that won't really get a guy to propose. How much longer are you willing to wait it out?
Welcome to the hive - I joined while waiting also!
It is a great place to wait and then when it finally happens it's a great place to plan your wedding!
I guess my biggest concern is that the “I’m saving” is a cover up for “I’m not sure I want to marry you” – of course I would love a nice engagement ring, but he knows that I don’t really care about the ring – I just want the commitment of an engagement. For the last few months I have told myself that if he doesn’t propose by our three year anniversary (which is today) that I need to reevaluate the situation……………..why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free right??
You are right about the milk. Men don't always feel compelled to propose unless they feel they will lose you. Sad but true. They don't always realize how good they have it. I plan on telling my SO after we've been together for a year that I like things as they are now but I would like more. Then I will have a poker face and see what he says. Poker Face like Lady GaGa ;-)
Anyways I would like to be happy and him as well so if it isn't moving forward then we will have to part ways. Then if he doesn't offer to get a ring right away you know it is time to move on and lay low. Be scarce. Plan a trip with girlfriends. I think the hardest thing to remember is men don't think like us. They need motivation. Not all men but most.
I'm a tough cookie though so I don't put up with much anymore at 32 hehe
Welcome! We're awesome, so don't be afraid to jump in! Glad you're here!
Welcome to the boards!!! Have you tried having a serious and honest conversation with him about how you're feeling? I'm sure he knows that you want to be engaged, but does he know exactly how much it means to you?
welcome!
bostongirl...my FI and I just got engaged in May. We've been together 7 years, and living together for 3.5 of those seven years. He took a looooooong time because he too kept saying he couldn't afford the ring at the moment. But I have it now. Don't worry, the day will come!
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So I found this site a few weeks ago and have been stalking it ever since. I was so happy to see that I am not the only girl out there who is waiting, more than anxiously, for a proposal. My BF and I have been together for 3 years (today as a matter of fact) and I seriously don’t know how much longer I can wait for him to propose. I realize that 3 years isn’t really that long to wait but the situation that we are in is what is making me want the ring so badly. We are from Boston and moved out to CA (to be closer to his family because his mother is sick) over two years ago. I miss Boston and my friends and family so much, and in my mind me moving out here with him was my way of showing him my commitment. I need him to return the “commitment.” We have had numerous conversations about the topic (and embarrassingly a few arguments) – he keeps saying that he doesn’t want to have to finance a ring – he wants to be able to just purchase one – but with the amount of time that he has been saying that he is “saving” I think he could have bought a ring and a car!! Wow – that felt good to get out!!