(Closed) New Here :) and a question!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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4720 posts
Honey bee

We spontaneously decided to get engaged when we were running errands one day, and the ring and official proposal came about 2 months later, so I’m probably no help. 

But welcome to the Hive!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

NOTHING! We have been together for 10 years and he sucks at lying and keeping secrets so I thought I would know atleast a week before but there were no clues at all!! He even drove 3 hours to ask my parents.

Post # 5
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701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I knew a proposal was coming because we talked about marriage a lot, I knew he had the ring, etc. I did not know the day he was going to propose.

I had a hunch the night he proposed because he was acting weird and nervous.

Post # 7
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851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think signs he’s about to propose are things only you would pick up on, because you know him best, but he might just be really sneaky and great at keeping secrets!

My fiance (bf at the time) walked up to me with his calendar in hand in September and said “we need to go apple picking this year, we missed it last year. Are you free October 15th? Check your calendar” And then made me pencil it into my calendar a month in advance — so I sort of thought something was up, haha. Also, when we went apple picking, it was COLD outside, and he was wearing a thin little fleece jacket and refused to change into another one, which I later learned was because it was the only jacket he had that had zippered pockets, haha. 

I know it’s hard to do, but try to just relax and enjoy this time. You said you have talked about rings, and marriage, so you know you’re both planning on being together, and even though it’s hard to wait, this will be the last time the two of you can enjoy each other’s company without people pressuring you to make certain wedding decision or make babies. Enjoy it while it lasts!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

He gave NO SIGNS whatsoever! He proposed in Disney World and gave me the trip as a present for my birthday. We would be there for our 4 year anniversary and I casually mentioned this to him and he said he had planned dinner for Tony’s that night which is the restaurant from The Lady and the Tramp. All day long he was fine. . . halfway through the day we went back to the hotel to get changed. Still, nothing. Then when we got back to the park he told me we were actually eating inside the castle. The little girl inside of me was too excited to notice any strange behavior. I did notice he wasn’t eating a lot, but we had a big lunch that day and he was attributing it to that. When the ring came out on a covered tray sitting on a bed of rose petals inside a glass slipper, I was SHOCKED. I didn’t see it coming! After the fact, he told me he had been planning this trip since January (this was October) and that he sneakily asked my father for permission, etc. I had no clue. I guess some guys are better at hiding it than others!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@badabing88:  I was in the same boat as you. I knew it was coming “soon” – but, like PP, there were absolutely NO signs that he was going to do it that day!! 

Post # 11
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732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Well a couple we are friends with got engaged before us. We were sitting on the couch and the notification that they were engaged popped up on Facebook. I just turned and gave him a look (the ‘what about us look’) and he responded with, ‘don’t worry your getting your ring soon’. I was thrilled! We had never set any sort of timeline for marriage and I wasn’t expecting it. 3 weeks later he proposed. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

my bf is being very stingy with money, won’t let me see his phone, and can barely sleep he is so stressed. Therefore, I think it’s coming very soon πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@badabing88:  i did have some inclincation because my FI has a HORRIBLE poker face and started acting kind of sketchy the day before we left for the trip he ended up proposing on.  I didn’t know for sure and the actual moment was a total surprise but I knew he was talking to friends about doing it sometime this year. It ended up being totally spontaneous after his original “plan” got messed up due to a drunk homeless dude singing french (don’t ask) but it was perfect. He rarely plans anything more than 45 seconds in advance so it fit right in with the way that he operates.

 

Good luck! And try to relaxxxx

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@badabing88:  I was hearing “soon” for a long time too (we first looked at rings in January 2011 and he proposed in July 2012). I finally made him clarify what “soon” meant to him – is that in a measure of weeks or months or years? I finally got him to admit around February/March that “soon” would be before his family vacation in July. He proposed the two days before the vacation started.   !!!!!

I agree with PP, just try SO hard to relax and not say much.. Pretend that every time you mention it it will be pushed back 2 weeks. πŸ™‚

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