New Here! and new to this deployment thing

posted 2 years ago in Military
Post # 2
253 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

You just find something else to occupy your time. If you don’t have any hobbies– get one! I took up knitting on my FI’s first deployment. I got so engrossed in it, it relieved stress and I ended up with some cute cowls. Look for any classes in your area (painting, pottery, drawing, sewing, teach yourself to knit from YouTube videos etc) in something that you’ve always wanted to do. Do all the Pinterest things you’ve wanted to try.

Throw yourself into work or school. Stay late and show up early.

Finally, pick up some books. Make a reading list. Or go for a run every day.

Working on yourself is a wonderful way to distract from missing him. If he’s stateside, call each other often (not all of us have that luxury). Write letters and emails, send him packages. Plan what you’ll do together when he comes home. Send him reminders of how much you love him. Call on family and friends if you’re ever so lonely you don’t think you can make it. Because you CAN do it!

Post # 3
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

futuremrschristensen:  I second the hobbies!  It’s a great way to distract yourself from his absense.  I spend a lot of time with my family – or on the phone if they’re far away at the time.  Also, weird, I sleep on his side of the bed.  haha

Post # 5
222 posts
Helper bee

acoastieslove:  I agree with previous posters. Try to occupy yourself with hobbies, school, work, really whatever works for you. My man was gone for 11 months in the heart of afghanistan. My heart ached for weeks, I was always so fearful for his safety and I thought I’d never get out alive, but I learned to take it one day at a time. I ended up getting to focus on myself, my work and though I wouldn’t ever hope to go through another deployment, I don’t regret having gone through it either. My bf and I are much closer because of that time spent apart, and we were lucky because we got to Skype everyday. I also sent him care packages and letters, it gave the whole thing a sense of purpose for me. So just try to do you for a bit, one day at a time and he will be home before you know it 🙂 

Post # 6
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband goes away every 3-4 months for 3-4 months on a submarine. I’ve learned to embrace that time alone. I do things with my friends, get more work done at my job, take girl trips, read a lot, etc. I also spend a lot of time with my mother who recently retired. After the first deployment it was definitely much easier.

Post # 8
94 posts
Worker bee

acoastieslove:  my husbands in the military, he actually just got home a few weeks ago from a 9 month deployment in Afghanistan. It was our first deployment together and I won’t lie it sucked but you just have to cope and make the best of your time. He actually left only 2 months after we got married on top of that where he is stationed is 18 hours away from my hometown. I knew absolutely no one here but school was my savior. It kept me EXTREMELY busy. The first 2 months are always the hardest but after that it starts getting a little easier. You get use to being alone and only talking to them maybe once a day. The way I see things is-I love my husband he is truly my sole-mate. Leaving isnt an option so you just have to endure the suck. You’ll make it and be stronger because of it. Just keep yourself busy with school, work, hobbies, friends, etc. just whatever you have to keep your mind from thinking to much. 

Post # 10
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

acoastieslove:  if you haven’t already go to   It’s really helpful and fun to talk to other girls who deal with the coast guarddeployments  and moves 

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