- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Hi, everyone! I wanted to say hello and ask for advice as I’ve now been lurking here for 2 nights after a friend showed me the boards.
So its a long story….
I’ve been dating “dragon” for 3 years as of December. I’ve been friends with him for 8 years going on 9. We have so much in common (spirituality/religion, hobbies, friends, lifestyle, etc). I am sure – 100 percent positive – he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with.
Our relationship has not always been easy, we’ve had our fights. We’ve also had many challenges….
We met 8 years ago at a hobby-based event, he asked me out while I was dating my high school sweet heart. I turned him down. Over the next 5 years he got engaged, broke the engagement ad turn to me.
“You are the love of my life.”
Yup, love at first sight he claimed. He’s always said “I will always love you, no matter what, I can’t help it.”
Fast foward – 9 months into our relationship we were laying side by side in bed one morning when he started discussing names for our children. Yes, that’s right I nearly choked. He wanted to get married and have kids – strangly I who.. could take or leave having kids, was thrilled.
Then He went on vacation to florida. I lost my dream job, so he stayed in florida – without warning putting over 1,000 miles beween us.
It resulted in 2 years of “I love you, but hate you for leaving me,” screaming, tears, fights and growing pains.
Now he’s living near me, moved back up to be with me for 7 months. We’ve overcome most of our issues in the past two years, and are stronger than ever. Our communication is strong. We’ve discussed our life goals adn they are very similar.
December 2009 he gave me a promise ring. A promise that he loved me, and wanted to marry me. I wore it every day for years – until this summer while sick and delusional on meds – I lost it. I seached up and down, everywhere, inside and out – its gone. I eventually confessed this to him – he was disappointed but took it in stride.
This winter – December 2010 – he asked me to spend Christmas with his family. I swore a proposal was coming. What happened was nearly everyone we spent time with asking “when are you getting engaged? When are you getting married?”
I made clear to him lately I’d like a commitment being together over 3 years. He tells me to be patient. I mentioned I want to move out of my parents place to my own, he gets excited about moving in together when I mention my parents wouldn’t accept that without us at least engaged.
He asked me to just wait until after my birthday – which is April 14.
Do I take this as a sign? or fooled again?