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posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Comealongpond:  He needs to cancel the dating app if you guys have establish where you are going with this, and I assume you have if you’re living with him. FB is a whole other thing, and I wouldn’t be up in arms about that, but the dating app yes. It doesn’t sound like he frquents it a lot or is really all that serious, but if you love someone else why would you even need to see who else is there?

I would keep a close eye on him. Don’t stalk him or snoop, but I would be careful with this one a little bit. Yeah, maybe he didn’t try to hide it, but that almost seems like more of an insult to show you that he’s looking at other girls.

[Edit] I’m sorry, apparently manners aren’t my forte today. Welcome to the Hive 🙂

Post # 5
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Thats not cool! He needs to delete the app!

Post # 6
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3389 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Comealongpond:  geez I think he is still shopping around and no you’re not paranoid . I would Find a job and move outta there. Have a conversation with him about the status if your relationship are you exclusive? Will you ever be? Ask questions girl

Post # 7
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1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Comealongpond:  I think since you brooched the subject once, and it went so well, AND he told you to always talk to him when something is bothering you, it would be in YOUR best interest to brooch the subject again.

I think what he told you the first time seems legit.  He is going on to delete notifications.  I think that seems more prominent to me because your friend stated he is on every 10 days/2 weeks, and after she messaged him, he viewed her profile, and has not messaged her back.  Maybe I am wrong on this assessment.  Maybe he is keeping his options ‘open’,  but a part of me feels he is just being dense with the whole situation too.  I.e., he has not deleted the app because he has not thought about it as being an issue….type of thing.

If you live there, if you are happy, if you truly feel like he is honest, and a good man, and is not cheating, then those are all good instincts to keep intact.  I feel that when a person has legit suspicions it is because their instincts are telling them to be concerned.  Being bothererd that his profile has not been deleted is normal, for what it is worth, but you do not seem to truly believe that he is straying, which is a good thing.

You came into this relationship with emotional ‘baggage’ from your past marriage.  The hardest thing to do for so many of us is to not project past hurts into current situations.  Especially when trust is involved.  I believe that WHEN you talk to him, he will delete the app, but be honest in telling him that is what you want.  I do not think that is being ‘crazy’.  Good luck, and welcome to the hive!

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