New job, 18 weeks pregnant

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 4
3948 posts
Honey bee

Are you going to have 3-4 weeks vacation time by the time you are due?

I would be honest from the start and let them know so they can be prepared.

Post # 6
6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

To be honest I think it’s going to look a little shady to tell them now, but I wouldn’t wait too much longer. 2-3 weeks if possible? I would also try to find out how they handle vacation/PTO right away. I don’t believe they are required to hold your job given the circumstances, and short term disability usually has requirements too.

Post # 8
3948 posts
Honey bee

@fiver:  They dont have to grant you unpaid leave though. To qualify for FMLA you need to work there for a year, so you wont be eligible.

That is why I think you should be honest and tell them sooner rather than later.

Post # 9
8483 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m sort of in the same situation…I’m almost 18 weeks but I started almost 2 months ago.  I didn’t know I was pregnant when I took the job either!

I’m lucky that they consider me a transfer so I was immediately eligible for health care, retirement, short term disability, and they transferred my sick leave.  There was some confusion as I thought everything would transfer (including my vacation time, which I was paid out for) but it didn’t.

I’d be freaking out if I were you, but I think the only thing you can do is tell them and see what they say.  They’re gonna know eventually…

Post # 10
4941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@fiver:  Moved the thread for ya. 😉

I would tell them ASAP so that they know you’re at least trying to figure out a way to work things out. Good luck! 

Post # 12
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@fiver:  I’d tell them asap and go in with a solid plan of maternity leave/return to work.

Post # 13
1563 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@fiver:  Tell them ASAP. I changed jobs and started my new one at 14 weeks. I told them the first day. The advantage is that you are honest early and can begin to plan adequately for your leave.

Post # 14
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yikes! I’d be nervous to tell them, but I think you were right not to bring it up in the interview process.

Post # 15
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not sure where you live but in the us the first 6-8 weeks is Usually considered medical disability depending on the circumstances and not fmla. Fmla is a leave you maybe able to take after you are able to return to work and it does have rules as to how many hours you work and how long you have been there.

This is based on ny so it may also be different in other states as well. 

Post # 16
1104 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I started my job at 18 weeks and people started whispering just a couple of days into it so I ended up telling them my 4th day. I’m now 34 weeks, still working and very happy here. I believe they are happy with me as well. And they’ve embraced the pregnancy, they’re even throwing a shower for me next week which they’ve also invited my husband to as well. 

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