Post # 1
So I am starting an amazing new job July 2nd and am very excited to be taking the next step in my career. Better hours, better money, better growth opportunity. Everything seems to be going very well for me right now, including my relationship of 6 yrs. We are ready to take the next step and I am convinced my SO is going to propose next Thursday/Friday when we take a weekend trip to celebrate my new job and his summer vacation (he is a teacher). That said, how can I go into my new job on July 2nd wearing a new piece of ice on my finger? Will they think I was lying in my interview? I am worried they will think planning a wedding and being engaged will effect my performance. Which is entirely untrue since I have everything planned already.
Have any of you bees experienced this or are worried about experiencing this?
Post # 3
Your relationship status is none of your new company’s business. How would they think you were lying about it, unless they came out and asked you directly what your relationship status was?
I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry about it! Getting engaged or married is a normal life event and none of their business. If anyone comments, you can say, oh, we got engaged last week! Or whatever. I don’t think it will be an issue.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry about it, you’re not obligated to share that kind of information.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t sweat it either!
Post # 7
Wear the ring and don’t say anything. It is normal to take off an engagement ring for an interview and no one would think anything. If someone asks when you are getting married, you can say “oh, we just got engaged last weekend so we haven’t really started planning, but it will be at least a year so I can save up vacation”.
We have had several girls get engaged between job offer and start date, for us it is normal given who we hire (28-30 year olds) and the length of the process (6 months). I wouldn’t think anything of it.
However, do not make it big deal at all. It will be so hard because you are so excited to be engaged, but try not to talk about it and bring attention to it. Save the gushing for your friends, not for your new coworkers.
Post # 8
I don’t think you should be concerned in the least, but I agree that you should keep your excitement more in-check at the office, as it’s a professional setting. If anyone asks, tell them the truth — that you got engaged just recently.