New job or honeymoon?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 2
Hostess
9910 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

LoveLaceandWine:  I think you need to look at your long term future.  It sucks that the honeymoon might not work out but utilmately the job is better!

Post # 3
Member
415 posts
Helper bee

Hands down, the job is more important. You have the rest of your life to take a vacation. Don’t let this great opportunity pass you by! Think of your future and what you want out of life. I’ve been looking for a new job for months abd have had no luck.  I’d personally take a better job and more money over a vacation hands down, but that is me. Good luck on whatever decision you make!

 

Post # 4
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118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree with the PPs, but would also add that maybe you should try negotiating extra vacation? If a honeymoon is that important to you, it’s worth a shot. You may want to even offer to take it unpaid.

Post # 5
Member
1583 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Id go with the job and have a delayed honeymoon

Post # 7
Member
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I also agree that you should take the job. That being said, can you negotiate more vacation days? Can you make up the work by working extra hours leading up to the honeymoon? I don’t think it hurts to ask if you haven’t accepted their offer. A friend of mine was in a similar situation as you and she was able to negotiate an extra 1.5 wks off for her honeymoon. 

Post # 8
Member
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Definitely the job! Like PPs suggested, you can explain the honeymoon situation to them and see if they can accomodate you.  If not, maybe go on a “honeymoon” for your 1 year anniversary.

Post # 9
Member
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

LoveLaceandWine:  Take the job and plan for an anniversary trip.  We skipped doing the honeymoon right away and instead spent a year planning two weeks in Europe for our first anniversary.  I’m so glad we put the trip off for a year because we have more money saved and I didn’t have the added stress of planning a honeymoon while planning the wedding.

If you’re making that much more money it may be worth taking a weeklong honeymoon unpaid.  Defintiely get the approval for the time off in writing before accepting the job offer.

Post # 10
Member
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’d go for the new job and take a honeymoon later.

Post # 11
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2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We took a delayed honeymoon for various reasons and it didn’t lessen the experience. I say take the job becaues it is a long-term benefit and delay your honeymoon.

Post # 12
Member
2155 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My husband and I put off our honeymoon for 7 or 8 months, because he was finishing school and we wanted to have a hefty budget so we can take the trip of a lifetime without worrying. We did that and I wouldn’t have had it any other way!

If your new job cannot accomodate more vacation days right away then just use that time squirrel away funds so when you do go on your honeymoon you can really enjoy yourselves; create awesome memories, have fabulous meals, and maybe scratch a few things off your bucket list! Believe me, it won’t be less special just because it’s not immediately after the wedding! Best of luck!!

Post # 13
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5199 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

LoveLaceandWine:  Personally, I’d take the job.  For me a honeymoon is a nice extra but not essential.  It would be different if you were waiting until marriage for sex (I assume you aren’t) or were making a huge life transition.  You can do a mini moon and call every vacation you go on for the next year a honeymoon.  I think you’ll regret it if you don’t go for the job.

 

Post # 14
Member
1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

a lot of people don’t go on honeymoons right after the wedding. that job sounds amazing and totally worth the wait. 

Post # 15
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1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

Does this potential new boss know you’re planning to try for kids shortly after you’re married? Honestly, if it were me, I would do the honeymoon. I think that time right after you’re married with just the two of you is very important.  but it’s also never been my goal in life to have a career. I want to be a SAHM. So a better job, while it pays a ton more, wouldn’t be important to me.

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