Post # 1
I know this is a decision I need to make myself, but I was just wondering if anyone has any advice!
I wasn’t really job hunting (I started a new job last summer). My current job pays well, is super flexible, allows me to do some wedding planning at work, and my supervisor has been letting me bank time for my honeymoon, wedding, and a few trips this year…. However, my current job really isn’t challenging me and I’m bored. I am also one step from the top of the pay grade, and will be at the peak in July so theres no moving up really. So I threw in my resume and somehow got an interview for senior level job in health care, and then got the job.
Sounds great right? Its an extra $6000 a year to start, and I get a raise in July and then Oct. It relates directly to what I am taking my Masters in, and will be challenging and busy, which I like but I’m scared for too with the wedding, school, etc. I also start in the middle of the pay grade and can move up a lot. At the top, it pays $11 more an hour than my current job.
However, it means that my vacation does not transfer over, and I will be paid out what I’ve been saving (about 2 weeks). I will get a prorated amount, but it will only be enough to cover a trip for a friend’s wedding, and time off for my own, but won’t give me time for a honeymoon. I wouldn’t get more holidays until April next year, and by then I hope to be expecting, so it may not be the best time for a honeymoon.
In the short term, my current job works better for the wedding, vacation etc., but the new job is definitely better in the long run.
Anyone have any advice?
Post # 2
LoveLaceandWine: I think you need to look at your long term future. It sucks that the honeymoon might not work out but utilmately the job is better!
Post # 3
Hands down, the job is more important. You have the rest of your life to take a vacation. Don’t let this great opportunity pass you by! Think of your future and what you want out of life. I’ve been looking for a new job for months abd have had no luck. I’d personally take a better job and more money over a vacation hands down, but that is me. Good luck on whatever decision you make!
Post # 4
I agree with the PPs, but would also add that maybe you should try negotiating extra vacation? If a honeymoon is that important to you, it’s worth a shot. You may want to even offer to take it unpaid.
Post # 5
Id go with the job and have a delayed honeymoon
Post # 6
dcgirl655: I tried negiotating…. HR thinks I can take more time, however, it will be unpaid time. My FI can work OT and help with that, but I still don’t want to put him out.
I know I will be making quite a bit more money… so that will help. Its hard because I like my current job, so its hard to think about leaving. Somehow I feel so unprepared for this because I wasn’t really looking!
Post # 7
I also agree that you should take the job. That being said, can you negotiate more vacation days? Can you make up the work by working extra hours leading up to the honeymoon? I don’t think it hurts to ask if you haven’t accepted their offer. A friend of mine was in a similar situation as you and she was able to negotiate an extra 1.5 wks off for her honeymoon.
Post # 8
Definitely the job! Like PPs suggested, you can explain the honeymoon situation to them and see if they can accomodate you. If not, maybe go on a “honeymoon” for your 1 year anniversary.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
LoveLaceandWine: Take the job and plan for an anniversary trip. We skipped doing the honeymoon right away and instead spent a year planning two weeks in Europe for our first anniversary. I’m so glad we put the trip off for a year because we have more money saved and I didn’t have the added stress of planning a honeymoon while planning the wedding.
If you’re making that much more money it may be worth taking a weeklong honeymoon unpaid. Defintiely get the approval for the time off in writing before accepting the job offer.
Post # 10
I’d go for the new job and take a honeymoon later.
Post # 11
We took a delayed honeymoon for various reasons and it didn’t lessen the experience. I say take the job becaues it is a long-term benefit and delay your honeymoon.
Post # 12
My husband and I put off our honeymoon for 7 or 8 months, because he was finishing school and we wanted to have a hefty budget so we can take the trip of a lifetime without worrying. We did that and I wouldn’t have had it any other way!
If your new job cannot accomodate more vacation days right away then just use that time squirrel away funds so when you do go on your honeymoon you can really enjoy yourselves; create awesome memories, have fabulous meals, and maybe scratch a few things off your bucket list! Believe me, it won’t be less special just because it’s not immediately after the wedding! Best of luck!!
Post # 13
LoveLaceandWine: Personally, I’d take the job. For me a honeymoon is a nice extra but not essential. It would be different if you were waiting until marriage for sex (I assume you aren’t) or were making a huge life transition. You can do a mini moon and call every vacation you go on for the next year a honeymoon. I think you’ll regret it if you don’t go for the job.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
a lot of people don’t go on honeymoons right after the wedding. that job sounds amazing and totally worth the wait.
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN
Does this potential new boss know you’re planning to try for kids shortly after you’re married? Honestly, if it were me, I would do the honeymoon. I think that time right after you’re married with just the two of you is very important. but it’s also never been my goal in life to have a career. I want to be a SAHM. So a better job, while it pays a ton more, wouldn’t be important to me.