Post # 1
So, not only do I want to get married, but I want to have kids badly. But my bf already has a daughter with is ex, so he isn’t so keen on having the possibility of it happening again. I totally understand. But I can’t help but think-give me SOMETHING at least! lol. We have been dating for 8+ months (I know it seems short, but our meeting was so coincedental we fell in love quickly!) and I totally thought that this christmas would be it.
We currently are living with his aunt to save money for our own place, since I moved up here with him and had to find a job. (2 1/2 hours away from my hometown). We will probably move after we get our tax returns. He said he would want to wait till we have been living together in our OWN place for 6 months before we get engaged. Part of me agrees, but the other part says, “Why don’t we get engaged NOW and start PLANNING the wedding after we have lived together in our own place for 6 months?!” lol
So he is planning some christmas present with his mom. I got a little info out…he said it was yellow, that I would take it everywhere I went, and that it’s something I would use everyday and would want to show everyone! So I immediately thought yellow=gold. But when I asked about prices, he had to think if it was over $50. 🙁 And that it was as big as our steering wheel! AH! lol so nope, not it. I just thought that with the planning it with his mom, and him having to still go out and get it I would be lucky. I told him to return that one and get me something small, yellow and pretty. 😉
What do YOU think it is?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
It’s a toughy our guys know how to keep us on our toes….I knew my Fi had bought the ring..I ws with him. But he then made it a point to bring the ring back saying it wasn’t the right time….I was infuriated and scared and sad all at the same time. But, one day on his day of work he went and picked a completely different ring and proposed that day. It was a complete and udder surprise and I never saw it coming. Another plus is what he picked out was just absolutely perfect and beat out the ring we had picked together.
Post # 4
Enjoy the ride! My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months and while we’ve talked extensively about actually getting married, I know he won’t propose for at least a few more months. I am totally, totally okay with that since we’ve been dating for less than a year and since I know this is for real, there’s no real rush to get married (except for the fact we’re moving to a new city next August!).
Post # 5
Good luck! But try not to get your hopes too high–I feel like so many things can sound wedding related when you’ve been thinking about it. I was trying to guess my bday present this year and I threw out the words “tuxedo kitten” (because I really want one) and he said “tuxedo is close.” So started thinking maybe it was a ring because there might be some tuxedos at the wedding. Turns out it was a cool jacket–not a tux or a ring for that matter. lol. I do love the jacket btw.
Anyway, I don’t know what she could be describing. A yellow purse? (I’m reaching, I know) Good luck!! I hope she is trying to throw you off…
Post # 6
He could be saying that stuff to throw you off!! I mean why would he go shopping with his mom if it was nothing that important and why now when Christmas is so far away!
Post # 7
I KNOW! That’s what I am hoping for, but we have had some serious discussions on it, and although I would love to believe that christmas would be it…at the same time I really don’t think so. We also are going to try to charter a yacht (he works at a boat mechanic shop) for real cheap with our married couple friends. It would be for a week, and we’d go fishing, crabbing, and go up to Canada. (Never been there, and I live in the NW part of WA!!!) I told me best friend that it would be the perfect time for him to, since he originally told me to give him 1 year, five months. (It’s been almost 9, so I still have 8 months to go…ugh.) But it would be around next october if we cant save up by march. (Would cost between $2-3,000 each couple). So that would be almost OVER the time that he said he would propse by. She mentioned this to him, and he accused me of getting her to tell him! (How did he KNOW?!) lol. It would have been perfect. But I guess not. 🙁
Really sucks. He had tried the other day, like a week ago, and asked but we were driving, and the way he asked was by using his hand on my mouth to make me say funny things and pursing my lips together, and he randomly said “will you marry me?” but didn’t move my lips. Waited for my answer. I told him that I have said before to not mention it unless he was serious, and he insisted that he was, but long story short, he wasnt. 🙁
Your guy ever do stuff like that?
Post # 8
Sounds like he might just be trying to throw you off, esp if he knows you might be trying to get a few hints!! Hope its the present you are hoping for!! 🙂
Post # 9
I second a vote for a yellow purse. Or, he’s just messing with you 🙂 I know it is so hard to wait, but at least you know its coming! And until you get the ring (and after!!) we’re here to commiserate!
Post # 10
we are also at 10 months of dating and he wants to wait until eh is moved in to get the ring , which he is moving in end of this month and we already talked about getting the ring for end of november , waiting is soooo frustrating but he has allowed me to go ahead and start planning so that helps me a lot plus the awesome ladies on wedding bee of course .good luck and maybe he is trying to throw you off so it would be a suprise..
Post # 11
Just be patient. I agree with LovestheBear… my FI made a comment back around our 2 year mark that made me think he was going to propose on my 30th birthday. He didn’t and I was really upset. So enjoy the ride like another poster said. And hopefully you won’t wait 3 years and 2 months to get a ring like I did.
Post # 12
Oh, I hope he’s just trying to throw you off andd you actually get what you want! ; )
Post # 13
Arrggg I so know these arbitrary “hints” they think it’s so funny and cute… lol just shrug your shoulders and tell him you’re getting him something sexy and skimpy and it will be a gift for both of you on christmas. and if he doesn’t propose get him a g string with a santa hat!! if he does well, get the same for you 😀
Post # 14
a yellow puppy! lol. i hope its a ring!
Post # 15
I say just let whatever happens, happens. I’m sorry he doesn’t want anymore kids. My SO has a 10yr old son, but still wants to have them with me, preferably yesterday.LOL. We’ve also been together officially about 10 months.
Good luck with everything.