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    tallgal    10.10.09  

    Ok, I am writing this to myself as much as to you ladies.  I am pledging this holiday season to have a new attitude about some of my in-law family.  My MIL and SIL specifically.  I am really going to try and appreciate good qualities and try to ignore the comments that hurt my feelings.  The wedding is over and now I am really going to try and start fresh.  We don't have to be super close, but I do have to find a way to appreciate them. 

    Goodness, thanks for listening.  We are off to Chicago on Saturday for Christmas with my MIL and her family.  Wish me luck, last year was a disaster. 

     
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    EAQ219    May 22, 2010   Bethesda, MD

    Aww good for you!! The fact that you're willing to make an effort speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. Kill 'em with kindness, is what I say!

     
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    caitlanc    September 12, 2009   Western Slope of Colorado

    That sounds like a really great way to start off life with your new family!  Who knows, maybe now that you're actually married things will smooth out a little.  Good luck!

     
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    ashleyjane    1/16/2010   Tampa, FL

    Good luck!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I hope that you can get closer with your in-laws with time!

     
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    alundberg    February 13, 2010  

    I have FIL (Family-in-law) issues too, and it's always tough to have a positive attitude - great for you!! :) Good luck, and hopefully it goes by quickly!!!

     
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    Mrs. Dee to Bee    January 30, 2010   Louisville, KY (Wedding in TX)

    Thanks for posting this. I need the solidarity too! We're going to see my MIL tomorrow. :-/ --> :D

     
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    Ha! Well if you need a drinking partner in the CHI or "need to run an errand.." PM me!

     
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    tallgal    10.10.09  

    Thanks Ladies!  It's a very strange situation, so I am going to do my best to get over things in the past that have really hurt my feelings.  Mrs. Dee to Bee if you need to chat you can always PM me! 

    I'll let you girl know how it goes!

     

     
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    good for you!

     
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    hcritton    09/06/09   Seattle, WA

    That's a good attitude to have! It's not always easy to be the bigger person but not letting them get to you as much is better for you. Kill them with kindness!

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I think you're really smart to try to take a positive attitude and focus on how you can improve things from here on out.  Good for you!

     
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    tallgal    10.10.09  

    Ok, I tried ladies.  To be honest it was kind of a mess of a weekend.  My feelings are a bit hurt but I am going to do my best to be postive around them and maybe one day they will change their negitive tunes.  Honestly my husband is on my side about all of the drama they stir up, so in the long run they will only hurt their relationship with him by continuing the bad behavior. 

    Does anyone have any good advise on dealing with a MIL with selective hearing and a bad attitude and a SIL who is in her early 20's and acts like a teenager?

     

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