New moms: How do you find time for yourself?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

When my DD was tiny (and she also EBF’d almost constantly at one point), I would seriously lay her on the bathmat in my bathroom while i took a shower, so I could keep an eye on her …lol

Any time she napped, I was taking time to do something I wanted. I couldn’t sleep when she slept, I just couldn’t function that way.

Does your LO tolerate being layed down? I know some hate being put down, but my DD did well laying beside me on the floor or in her swing. I’d scrapbook, crochet, etc with her right beside me.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I’d suggest investing in pacifiers and a breast pump. My daughter used to breastfeed 24/7 and I couldn’t take it anymore, I was able to get a break by having her use her paci because she really just liked the act of sucking. Pumping will help give you a break so other people can watch baby and you can get away for a pedicure or something.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I also did things I wanted to do when DS napped at that age–I felt like if all I did was nap when he napped, I’d just keel over and die. Occasionally I napped, but I far preferred to take that as “me” time most days. 

I think it just helps to know that it will pass. Things get a lot easier and more manageable. Not every day, of course, but many days. My son is 13 months now and (most days) I’m able to work from home, get some internet/weddingbee time, keep my house clean(ish) and even get out and about/have playdates/coffee with friends/etc. 

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  That’s a phase, too. My little guy was like that, too. Maybe try a sling for naps, and you can at least do something for yourself, even if she’s attached to you. I’d say at about 4 months, my little guy moved from our bed to his crib and it was really painless. He started sleeping terribly in bed with me, so I thought “if it’s going to be that bad, it might as well be in his crib” and it improved a lot. He was just ready. Not that there weren’t times (for months) that he’d come back to bed after his millionth wake-up, but for the most part, he went down in his crib. Those evening hours become precious for me-time. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  She’s still so tiny and you’re brand new at this. I promise it will pass. My DD was no match for the swaddle/swing/white noise combo. She would pass out instantly and stay asleep for hours. 🙂 I suggest reading “Happiest Baby on the Block” for tips on being able to put her down so she can nap and sleep at night on her own and you can get your life back. My daughter is now 8 months and she sleeps in her crib in her own room 12 hours each night and takes two or three naps everyday ranging from 1-3 hours each in her crib. I have loads of “me” time these days!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I hear what you say about your little one hating being swaddled, but I really encourage you to continue to swaddle. I totally thought my little guy hated it, but you have to think about swaddling as the “jumping off” point for soothing, not as the answer. It’s unlikely to calm her down as she falls asleep, but it is likely to keep her asleep longer once she is. You can even swaddle in the swing (the only way my guy napped for months was swaddled in a dark room in a swing with white noise. 

Anyway, you know your baby best, but I’ve heard so many moms say “I thought he/she hated being swaddled, but now she doesn’t sleep without it.” We swaddled from about 2-4 months and it was a life-saver.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This was my baby until we got a Woombie.  Then he would sleep for at least 3-4 hours at a time at night, which allowed me some sleep.  When he was well rested, he would also need to nurse for comfort less.  I think the magic number is 12 weeks when most babies decide that they can sort of function without being held a lot, this is a theory about 12 month gestation (human babies truly need a 12 month gestation, but they come out at 9months because they would not fit after that), so the first three months they still need womblike treatment. It’s a pretty interesting idea if you read about it 🙂

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I totally get your frustration and my Lo is fed both breastmilk and formula. He eats every 2 hours, sometimes more, and is a horrible napper at home. He sleeps best in the stroller or carseat. This means I get very little sleep. He slept only 10 hours/day until just last week. However, he’s 9 weeks now and between weeks 7 and 8 he started sleeping for 3+ hours at least once in the night. We’re working on trying to get him to sleep at least 2 more stretches like that. 

I honestly don’t get much me time. I’m online while bf’ing usually. He tolerates being put down on the floor or bouncy seat for 20 minute stretches. I go to coffee shops and such during the day. But I’m totally sleep deprived! Hope it gets better soon for the both of us! I definitely get overwhelmed!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  You will miss it! I can promise you that lol. My 8 month old much prefers to sit up on her own and scoot around on the floor. My H and I always pick her up and hold her and kiss her and she tries to wiggle away to get back to scooting. 😉 Also, I do agree w you on not introducing a bottle until a few weeks have passed. We introduced it at 6 weeks.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Schatzie821:  This is so true! We never used a woombie but had great success with the swaddleme and miracle blanket. Google 4th trimester.

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