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    heathaah    September 2009  

    I am honestly scared for that part, when I should be excited.  The idea of having something moving around and kicking inside me scares me.  It makes me gag (but that it probably because EVERTHING is making me gag right now).  Everyone I know says it is awesome and they miss it after.  I was looking forward to that part before getting pregnant, but now I am a little nervous. 

    We saw a woman in the waiting room at the doctor and she was HUGE.  I hope that doesn't sound insensitive.  She was clearly all belly, and didn't appear to have "let herself go" or anything.  She looked perfectly healthy.  It just scared the crap out of me that I could be that big!  I said to my husband "please tell me she has twins in there??  please!"  He shrugged and said "No, probably not." 

    I feel like this sounds really bad, so I hope it doesn't.  And it has nothing to do with a fear of getting "fat" or not losing it after.  It is just a fear of having a full grown fetus inside me. The fact that it is gradual makes me feel slightly better.  Now, I do want to be "showing."  But it is the end part that really scares me.

    Please tell me someone else went though this?????  And moms, what is it really like??

     
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    @heathaah:

    I think it is really amazing feeling your baby growing and moving.  As far as having your belly get really big-it is gradual and at the end is cumbersome but then you will be closer to having your baby.  Don't worry, enjoy your pregnancy as much as possible.  Nine months is such a small amount of time in your life.  I am so excited for you!! Congratulations again.

     
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    ams12    November 28, 2010  

    I too felt/feel the same way. I always hear you either LOVE being pregnant or you don't. I am one that does not, I am super happy and excited for my lil guy, but I don't like all the changes my body goes through and feeling so strange. Some days I just feel totally weird. The feeling of him move though is not as weird as I thought it would be, you tend to start relaying on that for your reasurrance that all is good.

    The big belly though, DEF having a tough time with it. I have always been concerned about my weight and I know that sounds vain, it's just how I am so it's been tough to have a really big belly and feel uncomfortable doing the things I used to do. I am 6 months and people say I a so big, which I also hate when people make comments like that so I can't imagine what 3 months will do for me. 

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    It was amazing!  I'm so glad I got to experience it once.  It happens so gradually that you are able to get used to how much you are changing and growing. 

    By 36 weeks it started getting uncomfortable, but I just tried to enjoy every moment and let it happen.  I was definitely ready to provide the eviction notice at 40 weeks and it was sooo nice to get my body back... but even now I sometimes miss those wonderful kicks!

     
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    Pelikila    August 30, 2008   Houston, TX

    I was not one to love preganancy and did not like sharing my body and having little to no control over what it was doing.  I got used to DS moving around but it was always a little alien to me and totally freaked me out the first few weeks.  I carried small (according to the number of comments I received about how small I was for how far along I was at the time) so I never got a huge belly so I can't help with that.  I just know that I missed being able to bend.  It was the best thing after delivery - bending!  Keep in mind, we usually feel bigger than we look to others.  You will get used to it but sometimes it may just be a totally foreign and somewhat creepy/alien feeling when something new starts happening.

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    Feeling Addie move was both the weirdest/freakiest and most wonderful/incredible feeling.  And I do miss it a little.  When you're pregnant, you don't have to share your baby; you get all these wonderful little moments that only you know of, and you get to know your baby in such a special, intimate way.  After birth, the bonding goes to a whole new level, but sometimes I miss those quiet little moments when I was the only who knew she was kicking.  It's just a very unique experience, weird and awesome at the same time, and I think that's why a lot of women miss it afterward.

    I did have some moments of pregnancy where I thought (or screamed at my husband :), "I can't do this!"  I remember after watching my first birth video I told my husband, "I know billions of women have given birth, but I am not physically capable of doing this!"  It's just a big difference from logically knowing that something is possible and emotionally realizing that it's going to happen to YOU and YOUR body.  But the truth is, I got through it.  And you will, too.  You're scared and worried now, but at the end of the day, you'll come out on the other side just fine.  We're actually capable of quite a bit more than we give ourselves credit for.  :)

     
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    flamingred    June 19, 2010  

    It happens so gradually. I've always had a naturally super flat stomach complete with six pack before I got pregnant, and it's weird because I noticed that my stomach was growing but  at the same time I didn't notice. It was just like all of a sudden I couldn't bend down...or walk fast! I didn't really enjoy all of the physical changes, and if someone asked me I would probably at first say I hated being pregnant, but I LOVED feeling DD kick and move, and I loved falling in love with her over the nine months of carrying her. I know that sounds so stupid, but the love and connection really cancels out getting fat.

     
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    I think I was terrified from the moment I was pregnant right up until birth.  It's all such a big unknown, and so many people feel obligated to share these horrible things with you.

    I loved feeling the baby kick and move.  We played games with each other.  The only part about being huge I didn't like was that I could tie my shoes, LOL.  The rest was just wonderful!  I miss it.

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I liked it because I loved being pregnant and because I was always very in shape so it was an excuse for me to have an extra cookie or two because, really, is anyone going to notice? lol

    But I didn't like having to wake up to turn myself over at night-it required at least one hand to heave my belly so I could roll over. 

    As far as the baby feeling "alien".  It is.  Then when I found out I was having a boy, I thought, "Wow, there is a person with a penis and he's growing inside my body".  That's freaky. lol

     
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    It was uncomfortable for me.  But of course baby kicks make up for it. 

    I got arch supports for my running shoes because my arches hurt from pretty early on.  I was suprised at how much I noticed even a little bit of weight gain.  At 10 lbs I just felt so much less able-bodied, I still did plenty, it just felt different, which to me was a bit frustrating.  During my 8th month I ended up just laying on the floor crying because I was in pain and didin't think/want to do it for another 6 weeks.  I actually had a dream around then about what day she'd be born and freaked out because it was so far away.  It was the day she was born but we survived and what I found with pregnancy is the big discomfort is more temporary as your body adjusts.  And then it's just more like slightly annoying.

    Kicking is awesome.  I tell people about playing games with her when I was pregnant and how she still has the same way she kicks at my hand.  But I forget how strange that is to people who haven't had kids and usually get a 'that's so freaky' instead of the awesomeness I'm thinking it is.  It is weird to think about but once you learn their little kicking patterns it becomes not weird, you realize it's your little buddy in there and it's so neat to be able to interact with them and see how responsive they are before they're even born.

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    It is pretty crazy! A LOT of people asked me if I was having twins. I happen to have a pretty large baby (8 lbs 13 oz) and I measured big so I knew she'd be big ahead of time. So my response was always, "no, she's just one big baby," and then I'd try not to yell at them or cry my eyes out.

    I don't think I quite realized that I had a full grown baby inside of me until she came out though! All of a sudden there she was and I was like holy cow, those chubby thighs were just in my belly kicking me!

     

     
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    PutABirdOnIt    December 30, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I just re-read the post title and um, my bad. I'm not a new mom, I just like talking about my "babies". It never gets old:)

     
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    Sassygrn    June 4, 2011   Minnesota

    I am 31 weeks pregnant, I do not like being pregnant at all. However I have to say as PP have said feeling your baby move in you is a awesome feeling. Even though munchkin kicks and moves around a lot. I wouldn't give it up at all. I know he is there and okay when he moves around.

    It does get tougher to do things as your tummy grows, so if you are independent like I am it is hard letting go of things you normally can do for yourself. But DH is very understanding and helps me out a lot. 

     

     

     
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    rachiecakes    January 23, 2011   Boston

    I'm 27 weeks and am still getting used to my big belly (that will no doubt get even bigger!) - I have to say, I love feeling him kick. In the beginning I was always worried about him, since you can't feel or see anything. I love knowing that he's getting big & strong in there. 

     
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    KellyV    September 12, 2009   New York, NY

    it does happen gradually.  I have always had a super flat, muscular stomach, so for me it was weird.  I loved it (the belly) up until maybe like 34 weeks when I started getting relly sick of it.  I didnt get very big until that time, which is when I started having some issues including excess amniotic fluid, so I got bigger overnight. Now that Im not pregnant, I miss the belly.  I dont miss being pregant necessarily, just the belly lol.  And you might not get huge.  Seriously.  I didnt.

     You arent alone.  This is a totally normal feeling.  But the kicks, the jabs, the rolls, thehiccups..they all make up for it.  That is so awesome knowing that there is a little person in there that you guys made!  When you get there, youll be more wondering what he/she looks like than the belly.

     
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    missmouse29    July 2011   NWOntario, Canada

    [not a 'new' mom, but..]

    I was all belly. Like string bean hiding a watermelon under her shirt deal. And I LOVED IT. It was a little weird to get used to the fluttering and 2am rib kicks (if I turned over the wrong way my son would let me know he was uncomfortable in there :P ) but it didn't take long. Plus like others said, it happens so gradually. Sure by 38 weeks I was ready to be done with it, but that's all part of the experience.

     

     

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