New neighbor into my Fiance..

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@HopelessRomanticxo:  meh, there’s always going to be someone prettier than you and vice versa with your FI.

hes engaged to you for more reasons than your appearance. And women who act like THAT don’t turn on most men I know. 

Sounds like you guys have a good level of trust. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I definitely understand how you feel. I couldn’t handle my SO going out to bars and parties with single people; I’m so glad he’s not interested in those things.

Just take a deep breath, remember that you will be home soon, and that this girl is only a threat to your relationship if your FI reciprocates her advances. You can’t control his actions, but you know by now what kind of man he is.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@HopelessRomanticxo:  …..meh….who cares how good looking, successful, or accessible she is?  Is that all it would take to win you over??? 

Don’t be jealous, that just makes you nuts and him feel like you don’t trust him, lame…and either way, this girl sounds like she’s still got a few party dresses to throw up on…some night soon, Little Miss Neighbor is going to come limping home with her eyeliner all runny and smudged, with her hair sweat through, toilet paper stuck to the broken heel of her Jimmy Choos and a vomit stain on her boob….sound appealing? 

It isn’t…and your FI is going to feel exactly the same way…then she’ll just be “That Girl” that lives next door and who’s garbage is comprised mainly of bottles and gallon jugs…its fine…let her show her ass and don’t worry about it.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I had a neigbor that was into DH.  It made the situation very awkward because her FI hated my hubby for this reason.  I suspected she had a thing for my DH but one day while drinking her FI told my hubby “I hate you because my girl wants to fuck you”.  My hubby laughed until he realized the guy was serious.  As you can imagine we no longer hang out with the neigbhors and even moved (nothing to do with them of course).  Two months later the girl still tries to contact my DH via FB and text.  However I know for a fact my hubby is not attracted to this girl and at first thought she was dating her female roommate.  

I ignore it and I suggest you do too.  I know how my man responds in situations like that.  Once you show up the girl will backoff and her little “crush” on the neigbhor should end.  If not she’s one of “those” type of girls and in that case you and FI will just need to keep your distance.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Laurenskii:  + 1

Don’t let let eat away at you.  Confidence is a turn on, jealousy, not so much. 

When you meet her, kill her with kindness, and she’ll feel bad even looking at him!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nona99:  ahaha Brilliantly put, as usual. 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Instead of being jealous, feel awesome that you landed such a desirable guy!  Also, I don’t really get from your story that the girl is interested in him at all.  She’s probably just trying to be a friendly neighbor.  I wouldn’t assume the worst.  I’m sure there are attractive guys that you objectively know are good looking and you think they’re handsome, but that doesn’t diminish any of your feelings for your FI or make you disloyal in any way.  Humans can’t help noticing good looking people, it’s the thoughts and actions that follow that matter.

Also, it’s a little disappionting to see other bees try to insult or tear this girl down just because she invited the OP’s FI over for some drinking games. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

There are pretty girls everywhere and it just sounds like your FI is a nice guy. If she misinterprets it then thats her problem and I’m sure your FI would put a stop to any advances. These days niceness is kind of a rarity and can sometimes be taken as flirting.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Uhhh I don’t see any indication your neighbor is into your fiance. I wouldn’t worry about it. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Once you are back she will probably back off. Don’t worry. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Please do yourself  a favor and get over this.  There is always going to be a more attractive girl, a new interesting woman, etc etc.   To be worried because a new neighbor who is attractive moved in is ridiculous.  Being jealous and asking your FI all those questions is so unattractive.  Be the cool girl who doesn’t give a crap about the new neighbor.  Or maybe you will be surprised and become friends.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@MsW-to-MrsM:  +1. I am so glad my FI is over that lifestyle too.

However, OP, there will always be pretty girls around. If you trust your man, there is no need to worry. It doesn’t matter if she is a neighbour, colleague, friend, whatever. If he’s going to cheat, he’s going to cheat. This is why trust and communication is so important.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Don’t think of her as a pretty girl – think of her as just another female. If you still think that there is something going on despite her being pretty, then talk to FI about it. If not, then don’t worry.

Doesn’t sound like there is anything going on. She may be pretty but that doesn’t make her more flirtatious or aggressive. It also doesn’t make her funnier, smarter, nicer, or any of the things that I’m sure your FI loves about you. 🙂

Some women get so hung up on other women being supposedly “more attractive” that that is all they can think about. It sounds like maybe your friend who got jealous really got you thinking about this more than you would have otherwise.

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