Post # 1
So we just sold our lovely, totally remodeled 4bd, 2ba house (long story) and moved into an old, rundown 3bd, 1ba rental. Initially I was charmed by the super private dead-end setting in a great location 3 blocks from Greenlake. It’s cute enough on the inside, I mean, its a rental, I didn’t expect much. Unfortunately, there was a big red flag I chose to ignore: its a duplex. FI warned me. “What’s the big deal?” I said. I wish I could go back two weeks and tell myself.
Our duplex neighbor is a gay male slut. Now, before you think I’m some sort of homophobe, trust me, I’m not. One of my best friends is gay, and in my wedding party. The problem is, this neighbor likes to entertain company at all hours of the night. Strange company. And by strange, I mean strangers, literally. Last night we got a knock on our door at 11pm. Stranger: “Are you Gabe?”. FI: “No. Around the side and down the stairs. By the way, could you close the gate?” Then I got to fall asleep to the soothing sounds of my neighbor doin’ it with said stranger. Ew. Do you know how creepy and uncomfortable it is to hear someone having sex? These are thin walls, people. We’ve lived here for a week, and its not the first visitor he’s had.
Okay, so I know its his life and he can screw any stranger off the internet he wants to, but I really don’t feel secure with these people creeping around our house at night. He lives in the basement, and his front door is in our back yard. So people have to walk up to our front yard with the living room and dining room windows, through a gate, and around the side of our house past the kitchen. Who knows if they’re casing the house and will come back and rob us? Its traumatic enough downsizing to ONE bathroom, and now this.
Post # 3
I would try talking to him first before going anywhere. The next step would probably be the landlord though I doubt they can really control if they have guests at night or not even if they are strangers. You might be able to call the police and file a noise complaint but they can only really do something if they can hear the noise from outside unless you want the police hanging out in your house in the middle of the night waiting. Sorry I don’t have any real help.
Post # 4
I would speak with the landlord and tell him that you’re uncomfortable with all of these people walking around your house. If the landlord lives nearby maybe knowing this would make him nervouse too. Who knows.
Post # 5
this is sick…i am so sorry this is happening. I would be scared too! so i think you need to go talk to him. take your FI with you! seriously!!! and just be honest but nice about it. just explain things to him. i am sure everything will be ok 😀
Post # 6
How long did you sign your lease for? Unfortunately, you don’t really have the right to tell your neighbor what to do, especially in his own residence. Your landlord doesn’t have a say either, not much the landlord can do. I’m sure that your neighbor’s guests aren’t casing your house to rob you, it would hardly be wise since they could easily be ID’d by their booty call. People who are going to rob you tend not to want to be ID’d. The best you can do is post signs on your lawn and on around the house directing the visitors so that they aren’t unclear on where to go. The ONLY thing I can think of is that you could file a police report stating you believe your neighbor is conducting a prostitution ring and let the police investigate (but somehow my intuition doubts that he is doing it for money, so you may be SOL there too…). Sorry I don’t have more encouraging advice, but I’m guessing you’ve discovered the reason your duplex was vacant. I think it’ll be something you’ll have to deal with until you move out.
Post # 7
I would talk to the landlord, or else ask your neighbor if he could keep noise down after a certain hour. Also, if you get more knocks on the door (especially that late!) that gives a good excuse for asking him to have them enter from the back (uh, no pun in tended), because it’s about inconveniencing you at night, rather than being creeped out by his choice of partners.
Post # 8
Thanks for the words of wisdom, all. I think Daydreamwanderer is right, and I will keep track of any further late night knocks on our door in case a ‘formal’ complaint is in order.
Post # 9
uh that is awful.
the only gripe i have with our neighbors upstairs is they have huge dogs and all day it sounds like horses running around upstairs. my friends thought i was exaggerating until they came over and heard it for themselves.
Post # 10
Definitely! Don’t let it become a problem – next time someone knocks, maybe your hubby could stop by the next day and just casually be like, “Someone knocked on our door pretty late last night, we were wondering if you would mind using the back entrance for late night guests for the sake of our privacy/because it’s clearly marked/etc.”