Post # 1
I’m just wondering if this is normal. Or maybe I need some support or words of encouragement.
But my boyfriend and I got a 9-week old yorkie puppy yesterday, and it has been an insane roller coaster of emotions for me. He is incredibly cute, well behaved and already responding well to our training.
But we waited 3 months for him, and then out I nowhere I was SO nervous the day I picked him up. And now although I feel happy too- I have also been crying a fair bit, wondering if we made the right decision, and occasionally panicking over our new addition.
I love my boyfriend and our relationship so much, and I guess I fear the change in dynamic (3 instead of 2) and the fear that this won’t be good for our relationship somehow. I realize these are probably irrational, and my boyfriend already loves him so it’s not that.
We have no kids yet, so it’s always just been the 2 of us- I guess I’m fearing the change of that.
And how right now it’s all about the dog – we have to have a constant eye on him, and always are talking only about him- whether he peed yet, has he eaten, make sure you don’t let him chew this, give him this toy, etc.
I don’t know- is this new overwhelming feeling that my life must revolve around a dog only temporary, for his puppy stage?
I am so overwhelmed, confused and emotional.
Any words on this would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 2
It’s a puppy. A brand new puppy. Until he gets adjusted and house broke, you will be watching him constantly. It almost a sounds like you’re jealous of a two pound piece of fluff…. Maybe I misconstrued what you were trying to say…. But getting a dog is a big commitment and things will change because you now have an animal you need to consider when planning trips, staying out late, blah blah blah. But if you went into purchasing this animal knowing this, you shouldn’t be alarmed by it.
Post # 3
It’s so normal !! I felt the same way when I brought home both my dogs as puppies 🙂
its an emotional time and exhausting! Your dynamic will change a bit, but it will bring you closer together 🙂 it’s like having your own little family !
puppies are hard work, but enjoy it. It goes by so fast. My baby turns 1 on Monday and I already have puppy fever again ! Lol
Post # 4
Janer555: Totally normal. I bought my dog at 8 weeks old while I was single. I had been thinking about getting a dog, but not very seriously, and I kind of bought him on a whim. Soon after I got him and dealing with his constant barking and crying, I started panicking and I even considered returning him to the breeder. We had a rough first few months and I was annoyed that I couldn’t hang out with friends late or stay over anywhere (this was annoying when I was dating), but we got through it. I really wasn’t emotionally ready for a dog, but we got through it and I love him so much now. Puppies are rough, but it goes by quickly and once he’s trained, he won’t be as needy.
Post # 5
Give it a couple months. youll look back on. This post and laugh! Congrats on the new addition!
Post # 5
I just did this a few months ago, so I know what you’re going through. I thought we made the wrong decision at first too, and was extremely overwhelmed. I had to change my whole schedule to make sure the dog was fed, if he went to the bathroom, if he peed in the house, but overall I started to see the bigger picture and realized we were becoming a close knit family, and now I couldnt be happier now that we have him!!!
It takes some time to adjust, but it will get better. You’ll see. Here’s a pic just for the fun of it!
Thats when we first got and a couple days ago. He’s about three months in the first and eight months in the second.
Post # 7
Janer555: We adopted a dog (12 month puppy) about 3 months ago. It gets so much better. You need some time to learn each about each other and set up a routine.
It is tough and all consuming– my entire live ended up resolving around the dog. Things that I loved I could no longer do (like going to the gym class after work). But I love her and things are going well. I make new routines and we as a couple are doing much better.
Post # 8
Janer555: Aww, your feelings are totaly normal. I agree with everone else. Once the dog settles in and get’s a little older you won’t worry as much. And don’t worry about the dynamic changing from 2 to 3 because at some point you’ll wonder what it was like before your puppy! Also here is a pic of our fur baby Baxter!
Post # 9
It’s so normal. My husband and I were pretty overwhelmed when we got our puppy, and we already had a dog! It’s a big adjustment. We also wondered if we made the right decision, even though we loved and wanted him so much. We felt like we would never be able to go anywhere anymore. But trust me, it gets better. It just takes a lot of work in the beginning. Now we could never imagine life without him.
Post # 10
I’m in the same boat! We adopted a 10 week old Finnish Spitz/Sheltie mix and she was SO CUTE but SO OVERWHELMING. She’s 7 months now, and I have to admit, still overwhelming. To be fair, I’ve only had a cat on my own, and they are the lowest maintenance animals. I think the feeling that your life revolves around the dog goes away once they hit about 4, when they’re no longer adolescent doggies – at least, that’s what my friends who have dogs say. Here is a pic of Sansa Bark, since other people are doing it too haha
Post # 11
greenmile12: wahh my baby is 4 today!! How did that happen!
Happy early birthday!!
Post # 12
I had a very similar situation a month ago but with a kitten. We already had a 1 year old cat but wanted another kitten as a friend for our baby. When we brought the kitten home our cat was EXTREMELY unhappy and I cried and cried and as convinced I made a mistake. i didn’t think I could love the kitten as much as my cat! After a short time, however, he took over all of our hearts and we couldn’t imagine life without him! Not to mention him and our cat are now BFFs. Give it some time and you will feel better 🙂
Post # 13
stephncollins: I would probably rip my hair out if I went from only ever owning a cat to owning any variety of spitz!!! lol those are challenging dogs. But she’s SO adorable !!
thanks!! Happy birthday to your baby too!! the years just fly by don’t they 🙁
Post # 14
Janer555: When we got out first puppy he was an absolute nightmare. My then boyfriend (not husband) was working out of town and 3 days after we got him, he left for his next 2 weeks out of town. I cried. I was scared. I was boarderline panic attacks ALL the time. I wanted to give him back so so so bad. I didnt, and I love that dog so fricken much. He’s my giant fur baby and I love him. You’ll adjust and it will be just fine! FWIW I’m now 35 weeks pregnant and terrified about feeling the same way about this baby!
Post # 15
Oh my gosh, thank you SO much everyone for the replies! You have no idea how much this helps and to know my panic feelings are kind of normal.
It’s so good to know I’m not alone in this and that this will somehow actually be enjoyable with no pockets of panic or what ifs running through my mind.
I honestly do feel a bit crazy for feeling this way, but your replies made me feel MUCH less so.