(Closed) New responses

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
314 posts
Helper bee

Easy….Just tell them that you are happily enjoying yourself with your SO at the moment and that when it happens, they will definitely be the first to know. 

Post # 4
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1770 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@EveryDayofForever: I don’t think your problem is finding new responses. He seems to have the excuse part covered.

From your other post, it is clear he knows you want to marry him. It’s been a decade. Time to sh1t or get off the pot. I would ask him, if he is unwilling (& I suspect he is or you’d already be engaged) I would move on, although I know that would be so difficult.

It has to be incredibly painful to be in your position while he decides if you are  marriage worthy. This would likely be incredibly painful for your family who loves you as well, hence their concern and questions.

I’d give careful consideration to how much longer you are willing to wait. We women don’t have endless tiime to have children. Even if you are not that old, it still takes time to meet the right person (again) and get to the marriage point.

Best wishes, sorry hon.

Post # 5
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556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@EveryDayofForever:  If those kinds os comments are making you unconfortable I would talk to you boyfriend. I have been in a 8 year relationship and still no ring, I’m not sure I will wait to the 10 year mark for him to decide that he wants to marry me or not, my family is still quiet about the proposal issue, because he are in the mid twenties, but I guess they will start soon… I’ve already told my guy how I feel, and that I’m not going to wait forever for a guy that “isn’t sure” about me, I deserve better. 

 

If the marriage is something that you can live without then tell other people to mind their own business, that you are happy they way things are. If not, then it’s time for a big talk with you guy.

 

Post # 6
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7239 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@EveryDayofForever:  When people ask if SO & I are close to marriage I make a big show of looking at my left ring finger. Like, I hold my hand far away from my face and then bring it close, back & forth, like I’m trying to find the ring. Then I say “Hmm. Guess not!”

That said, I’m sick of this question and SO & I have been together EIGHT MONTHS. Ten years? Holy hell. I feel for you. 

Post # 8
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3 posts
Wannabee

I usually say.. Married? Oh we are still getting to know each other.. or I;m still deciding

 

People usually laugh

 

It annoys me how people ask ME

Post # 9
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2573 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@gemgirl6:  +1

OP – I don’t think the issue is new responses. Normally I would tell family/friends to MYOB, but I think in your case, your friends/family are concerned for you – especially if they know you want marriage. If not being married did not bother you, you would not have a need to justify these questions w/ “witty” responses. Like Gemgirl said, it really may be time for your SO to sh!t or get off the pot. :/ Good luck.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Just tell them you love silver (or white gold) so much that you wait till the first grey hairs show up to match the silver wedding dress you have in mind. I don’t know how old you are but after a certain age people stop asking about engagement and wedding plans.

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