Post # 1
I’ve been married for almost four years. But I’d like another ering. I chose the smaller one because I didn’t want to make my then-fiance spend too much. I’m not saying that I want a huge expensive ring now, just something that’s bigger and more what I should have gotten in the first place. I realized that the ring I chose is listed as a
“promise ring.” That kind of bummed me out.
I mentioned it to my hubby and he was not very happy. He thinks I should wear the ring forever. He planned to wear his band forever until we realized he was allergic to white gold. (nickle)
Now I feel guilty, but I still want a new ering. Should I just forget about it or what?
Post # 3
If you are comfortable spending the money yourself, I suggest getting an amazing RHR that you love. That way, you get to have a new ring that is 100% you, and also maintain accord with your DH because you will still wear the original ring. Otherwise, I would be extra nice to DH for a while so he organically decides that you should have a new e-ring. That is the only situation in which I would find it appropriate to have a new e-ring: when he decides all by himself. It is entirely reasonable for DH to feel slighted.
Post # 4
Thanks! I have decided just to keep my original set. I want something bigger but when then I’d feel guilty that it’s not the one he proposed with. And I also feel uncomfortable with flashy jewelry and stuff. I have an immediate family member who is barely getting by and I just feel silly now for wanting something that isn’t that big of a deal. Not that I look down on women with big rings or anything, everyone is different.