New ring issues – what would you do?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: IF this was your ring, what would you do?
    Get a completely different setting - pave does not agree with you! : (40 votes)
    65 %
    Try one more time with the original designer : (6 votes)
    10 %
    Have a similar type setting made : (16 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Option 1 or 3. I know it sucks bc it’s not the exact one that your fiancé picked out, but you’re having too many problems with the one your fiancé picked out. And it sounds like it’s not the company,  but the design.  Since you are lucky enough to have the option to get something else that won’t have the problems, you should.  If you get the same one again, you may not have the choice to opt out of it again.  Be thankful that you were given a choice, ya know?! If you choose option 1 then just pick it out with your fiancé.  Either way though,  it’s still going to be your engagement ring from your fiancé.  I think that people put too much emotion into a piece of metal. And I might feel this way bc I’m not in your situation, so I apologize if I’m not truly understanding what you’re going through. 

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @ButterflyButterfly:  Awwww poor guy 🙁 he obviously didn’t screw up bc you love it soooo much that you can’t wrap your head around the idea of a different ring. It’s just a crappy situation & I’m sorry that you’re in it. I hope everything works out well for you. And, I’d like to see the final result 🙂

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @ButterflyButterfly:  I guess I’m pretty attached to the piece of metal on my finger so what am I even saying!. I wouldn’t turn down the option for an upgrade though lol 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I feel for you. I’m going through almost the exact same thing right now And just posted about it!  My ring is a halo split shank with pave side stones that looks just as delicate as yours (exactly the reason I love mine also). My first ring I had resized (down one half size) and had similar issues with constantly loose/missing stones. The store reordered it in my size, but the halo is crooked!  Ordered a third time and still crooked. It seems as though the mold they are using in my size is defective. So im considering the same options as you. Either try to order it again with fingers crossed, have the store custom make the same design (more expensive) or pick a whole new set all together.  I’m leaning towards a new set which is sad because we picked out the first set together and it was exactly what I wanted.  Good luck with your decision!!!

    Post # 8
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I just read a post you made on another board where you said you had your ring sized. Pave does NOT like to be sized, especially down. If you really love your ring, see if your jeweler can order it in your size. Since I had mine ordered in my size, I’ve had zero loose/missing stones. I just have other problems lol. 

    Post # 9
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

    @ButterflyButterfly:  I had the same problem with my first setting, and it held pave similar to yours, I’m guessing. I have 4 prong pave now because I was too paranoid for anything else. Although it looked pretty bulky in CADs I think it still looks pretty delicate now.

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    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    I would just get a whole new setting so I didn’t have to worry about it anymore!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @ButterflyButterfly:  I think it depends on what kind of person you are:

    if you’re absolutely in love with that setting, are you OK with going back for repairs often– knowing that somewhere down the line YOU might be responsible for them– or that if they happen enough, the jeweler might eventually require to order abother setting– as I imagine repair after repair and replacing diamonds could truly get costly for the jeweler– especially when it’s a setting they know they’re having problems with.

    Because if the idea of many repairs doesn’t sound appealing to you– I might start to look at other settings.

    I have  bezel set solitare.  I love my ring– soooooo much.  And a huge part of the reason I chose it is because I decided I’d rather have something maitenance free– vs making the jeweler my second home.  And I know that the minute I noticed a stone missing, I’d want to get it repaired immediately– I’d never be OK wearing it unless it was “complete”– but that’s just me.

    I’m not suggesting that you get a bezel setting– but that you reconsider the design of your ring, and then figure out what you’re going to be OK with down the road.  When a ring is so delicate (a wedding related ring, especially)- that it can’t be worn with daily “regular”  use– and no, I’m suggesting you should be able to beat the crap out of your ring– but wear it as you use your hands for “normal” daily tasks– anyway, I don’t see the point in owning a ring you have to take off more than you wear, unless it’s a cocktail ring or such.

     

    There was a design that wasn’t bezel set that I was kind of in love with– but I switched my mind back to bezel and am very thankful I did!!

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @ButterflyButterfly:  Hmm… I find it a little strange that the goldsmith isn’t comfortable making your ring with little metal showing. I have the exact same look, done in micro pave, shared prong settings. I have had zero issues with stones falling out. And you can’t see one speck of metal on mine. 

    Perhaps your jeweler has another goldsmith he can talk to?

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee

    I have a swirly kind of ring and I don’t have a lot of issue with stones coming out.  He got it at JB Robinson (which is part of the Kay family- bleh).  It doesn’t have a center stone (it’s four small princess cut diamonds put together to look like a regular one) but I’m sure if you bought/ provided a center stone, they would be happy to use that instead.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I have to agree with other posters. Before I saw a picture of the ring, I thought it would be WAY more intricate. It is beautiful though.

    I dont have any advice except to agree that pave doesnt liked to be sized down. I had one of my diamonds fall out 4 times from my settings. That was 4 years ago ,and I havent had a problem since. So eventually the problem may fix itself if you were to stay with that design.

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I JUST went through this same thing. I voted that pave is just not right for you. I had a very intricate designed ring like yours that the jewelers added metal to to prevent the stones from falling out. It changed the whole weight of the ring and look and I still had a stone try to come loose. We ended up exchanging it with a channel set ring that I actually LOVE. I almost hate pave now because while beautiful they just cause too much stress. Your wedding rings are supposed to be one thing non-stressful about life and getting married.

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