Post # 1
Hello again, ladies! It looks like I’m going to be posting about my ring issues about once a day until I finally make a decision. My SO is so far beyond wanting to hear about this anymore and I need you guys to pick up the slack 🙂
So this first picture is representative of what I have been looking at getting new. That is the shop assistant’s hand, she has super skinny fingers, it’s a close up shot, and that stone is not small, but it does NOT look anything like that big on my hand. That’s also not the exact stone, that was a slightly bigger sample in the same ballpark. The picture is representative of what I have been shopping for though – that setting and an emerald cut stone.
Now that we’ve looked a bunch of places, I’m just like omg ugh, these stupid little rocks are so expensive, and I’m not super thrilled with the options I am seeing in my price range. And it’s just SO MUCH MONEY. I feel like if I spend that much, I *should* be super thrilled.
So I took my grandma’s old rings to get evaluated. I was told the nicer looking ones are too chipped to wear every day. The one below is supposed to be ok. So that picture is my grandmother’s engagement ring on my real hand (making its online debut!) It’s not really what I wanted, but it sure is free. Sorry about the bad phone picture, not sure if you can see, but it’s a small round stone in a square setting. I do like that it’s antique looking. I don’t like that it’s yellow gold and I have some concerns about possible metal allergies.
I don’t know. I’m pretty unenthused about ring shopping now. We have the money to buy the ring on the top, but I don’t want to spend it all unless I feel like every time I look at the ring it will make me feel like “omg I’m so glad we spent so much!” Or at least not make me feel like we got super ripped off. But then at the same time, I don’t want to just fold all that money back into the black hole of our budget, where it will likely be spent $15 at a time on unmemorable trips to Chipotle over a course of years. We are not saving for anything but the wedding, but I REFUSE to put it into the wedding budget. You can come back and show me this post in six months when I wish I had, but it makes me sick already to think what we are going to spend on just one day. At least the ring I would get to wear every day!
Meh. Thoughts? I want this all to be more fun and cost much less.
Post # 3
i agree that having a free and meaningful ring is great!! but if it doesn´t exite you at all you better get a new one. Getting engaged is something that only happens once. (FOR MOST PEOPLE HAHA—not judging anyone who´s still fighting for love after a failed marriage…that takes guts) but well it only happens once with each partner….is the begining of an amazing stage with your future life partner. a ring seems like an expensive accesory sometimes but it holds more meaning than you think. you´ll wear it for years and years to come.
Post # 4
I am so sorry that you are going through this process. Diamonds are absolutely outrageous and overpriced. The only diamonds that I own are in my E-ring and my promise ring channel setting band from high school. 🙁 My FI makes pretty good money I think but was still giving me a hassel about the price and size I wanted. I would take your time looking at diamonds and see them in person. My diamond is appaerntly an SI2 yet the one flaw that I can see on the side is not noticable from the top and doesnt affect the diamond’s brilliance or sparkle but it helped the price! Also, try looking into Moissanite as I have read that it is much less expensive than diamonds and still maintains the sparkle and wow factor.
I love the setting and stone you picked out and think you should get it if it makes you happy. you will look at it forever.. We too think of how many trips to chipotle we could make with my ring but f*ck it– I love my ring! haha You should love yours too.
Go with your first choice!!
Post # 5
@TrousseauHorse: I know how you feel. I have been having a hard time finding a ring that had the right balance between love and price. Perhaps you could wear the estate ring until you find something that you fall in love with. I would not drop a ton of money on a ring you do not love, and especially not just because you are sick of looking for a ring. Wear the freebie for now, and when you aren’t looking (or at least, aren’t looking with a sense of desperation and exhaustion) you will find the one.
Post # 6
You won’t get a nice diamond for “cheap”, but you may be paying more than you need to by going to an actual store. Why not look at on-line vendors? My suggestion would be go to Pricescope.com and tell them what you’re looking for along with your budget. The posters there seem to be super helpful and may find you something much nicer than you think you can afford.
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I’d get your grandmas ring properly appraised so that you know what metal it is etc. and can make a more informed decision. The top one is beautiful though!
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think heirloom rings are soooo great IF you like the ring – I wear my great-grandmother’s and I am absolutely 110% in love with it.
But if the ring doesn’t make you feel that, it’s better to buy something that you will be thrilled with every time you see it on your hand. (Which is like, oh 500 times a day.)
Maybe check out pawn shops and used jewelry stores? You can get some beautiful stuff for reduced prices. I know there are a couple really well renowned estate jewelry sites on eBay.
Post # 11
The heirloom ring is really pretty. But if you’re not excited about it now, I wouldn’t expect that to change in the future. I think buying new is worth the money if it’s what you love, and I agree with the PP’s that you should shop around if you’re worried about budget.
Post # 12
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@TrousseauHorse: You aren’t excited about the heirloom ring and you said it should be okay. Not a ringing endorsement by any stretch. You will wear your ring every day of your life. Invest in something you like.
This is coming from a lady that lvoes her heirloom ring. Had I not loved it, I wold have found an awesome wedding band to wear every day and only worn the heirloom engagement ring on occasion.
Post # 13
I think they are both beautiful in their own ways. Would it be possible to use your grandmother’s stone in a new setting?
Post # 14
I think your grandma’s ring is beautiful!
Post # 15
I see your dilemma. It’s sounds like you really prefer the one you picked out over the heirloom, but you’re not comfortable asking him to spend so much money When you could have a ring for free. Would it be possible to tell him how you feel about both senarios and have him make the final choice. The amazing thing is thy you have options, both great.
Post # 16
I love your grandmother’s ring! But you are the one that has to love it.
However, my fiance brought me Chipotle the night he proposed, so it’s a very special restaurant for us. And you could definitely buy a lot of Chipotle with what you may spend on a new ring!