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A little *weird* background. My dad met the love of his life because I was dating her son in high school. Weird, yes.. They got together after we broke up. We were 14 and 17, it never woulda lasted. And they are madly in love at 45 & 47 yrs old. It has did take me a few yrs to adjust. 10 years later, I couldn't be happier for them.

ANYway, my now step-brother proposed to his girlfriend on Christmas Eve (I didn't even know he had a gf). Met her the next day, she was way stand-offish and not very nice to my step-brother at family Christmas. Bossing him around and generally just not fun to be around. I didn't get a good first impression at all.

2 months later, we all found out she's pregnant and that's why they got engaged! They got married at a tiny ceremony in my hometown. I could not attend.

My best friend's mom saw them together out and about and said the girl was being very mean to him! Now, my step-brother has a great heart and is an all-around good guy. I am not happy that he's being treated like that. Who knows what it's like at home? For his sake and their future child's, I hope she is good to him.

So, she posted ultrasound pics on Facebook today. I clicked on them, then went to see her other photos, no particular reason. Well I do not have permission to see them. I went to her profile because I have looked thru some of her photos before.. but lo and behold, no photos tab. I can only assume she blocked me from seeing her pictures.

Now, I know it might be weird for her because her now husband and I dated, but it was just for a couple of months and also 10 yrs ago. He has had many girlfriends since then and a lot of time has passed. But seriously, blocking your FB pics?! I am just sad for when the baby comes that I won't be able to see the pics, but I'm sure I'll see them elsewhere. I just felt like it was a very snide/odd thing to do. Is that just me?

No real point to this story but to VENT! I am just sad for my step-brother. She is always posting how she LOVES being a "wifey" and is SO excited for the baby, etc, etc. I mean ON and ON about how GREAT life is. I can only hope it's true!!! But.... I'm pretty sure it's a front and I unfortunately don't see the marriage lasting for long. :(

Well, I've seen where it "works out" even when the woman is like this. One of FI's friends ended up in pretty much the same situation. You can feel the tension everytime she's in the room and he never gets to go anywhere, but he chose to "do the right thing" and "be a man" as most people put it. If they choose to marry, then they choose to marry.

Purely on the facebook side of things - I block everyone from seeing my pictures except close family.  Most people I know do the same thing.  I have too many 'friends' that I don't know to leave it open.  So I wouldn't think that means anything. 

I hope your stepbrother is happy, does he seem happy to you? 

I just think it's sad that she seems to view you as his ex girlfriend, rather than as his stepsister, and part of her now-family.  That's a little weird to me!  Like, really, it was a long time ago, it wasn't a big deal, and your parents are married now!  I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, and I hope for your step-brother's sake that things work out for the best!