I guess I don’t know what your asking advice about. Is there a specific aspect of all this that you have a question about?
Practically, as someone who is planning on moving and getting married within two weeks of each other, I can tell you that both will drain your savings. Moving has a lot of unexpected expenses associated with it. If you are moving from rental to rental, you will have to pay the new security deposit before you get the old one back (if you get it back at all), and might have a month where you have to pay rent on both the old and the new place. In addition to paying for things like having the carpets cleaned at the old place, getting a moving truck, etc. So you want to be careful to make sure you have a lot of savings to buffer you though a move. If you have something like $7000 in the bank and want to use $5000 on a wedding thinking that you’ll still have $2000 left, well you might have to dip into that for the move, and then you could find yourself very financially uncomfortable.
As to telling your parents, well I assume you have to because in most areas you need parental permission to marry under the age if 18. If you aren’t yet 17, and you want to get married in a year, you might have a problem there. If your situation with your parents was abusive, you may want to push your date back until you are 18 and can do it without involving them. Either way, I would assume that they would not be contributing money, so you need to have enough savings to pay for it yourself. Keep in mind that weddings almost always go over budget as well, no matter how big or small that budget it.
Honestly, the best advice I can give you is to build your savings! The number one cause of divorce is money problems, and in this economy I would tell every couple, no matter how old or young, to make sure that after the wedding bills are paid, you still have enough savings to live on for at least 6 months, if not more. You absolutely want to get your marriage off on the right foot. It’s not just about getting married, it’s about starting a marriage, and even women twice your age seem to forget that sometimes. Get premarital counseling, not because you are young but because it is a great way for any couple to strengthen their relationship, and to make sure they are on the same page regarding expectations within a marriage. You want to be sure you agree on how you will do your finances, how you will make decisions about spending and saving, what are you expectations regarding spending time with each other or hanging out with friends, how you will deal with issues regarding extended family (especially with parents like yours) etc.etc.etc.
So yeah, that’s my advice to you. Make sure you go into this with you eyes wide open, and have set your marriage up on the strongest foundation you possibly can, practically (like having savings) and emotionally (with premarital counseling). And that’s something that is important for anyone considering marriage to do. relationships can always be strengthened, no matter what your age, and it is always important to be self conscious about those things, rather than just assuming that the fact that you love each other will get you through with out any work. Marriage is really hard, even for couples who love each other more than anything…