- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Hi, I’m new, and I found this board last week. I was unaware there was even something called “waiting” until I found myself in that position! And I thought my position was very unusual but reading around here, I guess it isn’t.
I have been seeing my SO very seriously for about 6 months (we knew each other for a bit before that though), and while I was sure he was the one very early in our relationship, a couple of things had me pushing the idea to the back of my head and just not considering it. I beleive in seeing where things go.
First, my SO is younger than me. By 7 years. And while he’s way more mature than most guys my age, I figured that I needed to relax and let him move at his own pace. He’s amazing and I thought that I should give him all the time he needs, even if I’m geriatric by the time we get down the asile. While I may feel like my clock is ticking, I knew that he would need to come to this decision on his own and without my ovaries.
Second – even though I have had a “sure he’s the one” feeling from almost day one, I’m horribly practical, and I was doing a good job of telling myself “great, now lets take it one day at a time” because I don’t believe in putting the cart before the horse. I want to work on building our relationship and I was sure that marriage would follow.
Pride comes before the fall kids. I have to tell you, I have been almost smug at how I’ve been handling it.
Until last week. When SO sat me down and started discussing possible timelines and things he feels he will be ready to do in two years. Like get married. To me. In two years. I was FLOORED. I mean he’s a great communicator and always says what is on my mind but my jaw just sat there hanging open.
So after a wildly exciting night where I was biting my tongue HE HAS THROWN ME INTO A WORLD OF TORTURE because all I can do is think about it. And from what I read on this board, he probably does not realize that I am now over the edge.
I was not ready to be waiting and all of a sudden it is all I can think about.
Did anybody else have the waiting PUT ON THEM when they were doing an awesome job at avoiding it? Also anyone else out there with a significantly younger SO? I was so reluctant to start dating him at all but he was persistant and now I can’t imagine life without him.
Anyhow. Hi. I’m going to try not to spend too much time here but I feel like my willpower will lose out on that.