Post # 1
I have spent the last 2 days obsessed with reading all of your posts, I feel like i know yall! haha. anyways, I’m so glad to know I’m not the only one with “engagement brain” as it was so eloquently put.
During the Fouth of July weekend, my best friend got engaged and another one of my friends got engaged. (isn’t it so frustrating when people who have been together less time get engaged before you?!?!!?) Needless to say I was super excited for both of them, but I am getting first hand experience planning my best friends wedding since she asked me to be her maid of honor. Oh my goodness, I am having too much fun helping her plan her wedding all I can think about is wanting to plan my own wedding! She opened Pandoras Box. I finally had an excuse to go out and buy ALL the wedding magazines my little heart desired 🙂
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years, going on 3 in November and I recently started leaving websites open with engagement rings that I like. SO the other day I left one open and I saw him go to the computer so I followed him and he saw the ring and i said “Oh…don’t look at that” (kinda like I was trying to act like I didn’t want him to see it)… So he says “oh, ok.” and clicks the X at the corner of the screen and proceeds to load up ESPN.com. I feel like he has no idea what I am hinting at. Is it possible he is this dense haha. I love him, but he IS still a man. Every time I try to talk about it, its like he has nothing to say! So aggravating.
Sorry this post got so long! Hope to hear from y’all soon!!!
Post # 3
Welcome to the Boards and to the Hive! We’re glad to have you…and you’ll find that it’s a VERY common thing to become addicted to weddingbee LONG before the actual engagement!
Post # 4
WELCOME, JM! Warning you will be addicted to WB but it is an addiction worth suffering from! 🙂
Post # 5
Welcome! Have you and your boyfriend talked about the future much at all? I think you are right that he may have no clue 😉
I think your friends are very lucky to have a friend who is so involved and excited!
Post # 6
Welcome! I agree with Mrs. DG, your friends are so lucky to have you be just as excited to help plan the wedding!
Post # 7
Haha, your way of hinting may not be straightforward enough, though I applaud your sneakiness! I would honestly just start conversations about the future – maybe don’t drop the M or W words (marriage or wedding) so as not to cause too much pressure, but other things, like what kind of house you want to live in together one day, or if you want to have kids together, that kind of thing. DG is right — if you haven’t had many conversations about your future together, it may not be on his radar. After a certain amount of time, women tend to think engagement is a given, but that’s not always the case for men.
Post # 8
PS: Welcome to Weddingbee! I was here for around 3 months of waiting for my ring and it does give you serious “engagement brain” and caused me to do some heavy duty pre-planning, though FI was 100% on board with it! So just keep that in mind — don’t say we didn’t warn you!
Post # 9
Welcome! I’m pretty new here too, and I’m already addicted! I’m waiting for the ring too, although I know my bf is shopping (although given that some girls here waited for MONTHS after their guy purchased, lord knows when I’ll actually get engaged).
Isn’t it all a bit silly? It’s 2009 and women are supposedly liberated and no longer relegated to their once-inferior roles, yet even the most independent women (myself included!) feel the need to wait around without too much discussion and hope that our guy pops the question! I have seriously considered just sitting him down to have a talk along the lines of: i know you want to get married, and i want to get married…. so can we be engaged now? But for my guy in particular, I know that he is a “romantic” and I’d totally be stealing his thunder if I don’t let him do his thing. Maybe if you don’t think your guy is that kind of guy who would get really into the proposal, you could just have a frank talk with him?
Post # 10
I think the best way to get the ball rolling is to sit down and have a talk with him to see where his head’s at.
Post # 11
welcome to the board!!! honestly i’ve gone insane this past week so i have no advice on how to get it off your brain.
Post # 12
One of my closest friends got engaged and set a wedding date about 2 months ago – she’s not having a wedding party but asked if I would help plan … and that’s what got me here! So I completely understand!
Engagement brain is an interesting thing – that’s for sure! And boys WILL be boys!
Post # 13
welcome to the hive! and as pp have already said, you’ll be addicted to the ‘bee in no time. i’ve been hanging around here for over 3 years now! so i have one righteous “engagement brain.”
good luck helping your friend plan her wedding! helping to plan my bestie’s wedding is what got me on here full time. it’s been tons of fun and i’ve culled so many ideas for my own wedding.
i also agree with dg [she’s a good advice giver!] on starting the conversation with your guy. sometimes you’ll be amazed at what you find out. during one of our first talks, i found out my guy actually HAS a dream wedding! i know!
Post # 14
We have talked about it a little bit. He doesn’t seem scared of it or anything and we have lived together for over a year, so it seems like an engagement isn’t so far fetched haha. My birthday is coming at the end of the month and there is a bunch of holidays coming up, but for some reason I dont think he gets it haha. We are planning on Europe next year and that would be perfect but i dont know if I can wait another whole entire year!!!! lol!
Post # 15
Welcome JM! I love when I hear how people were stalking the boards and then they decide to sign up and start posting. The more the merrier!! I think he probably knows you’re dropping hints. 🙂 I’m coming to realize that they play the roll over dead game alot. They act all dense and dumb but they aren’t. And they totally are 100% aware of what’s going on, it’s just a matter of whether they choose to let us know that they recognize it.
OH!! And I have to tell ya’ll about what my guy said to me last night. So we had a conversation about marriage/engagement and I forget what brought us up to the comment, but he mentioned about proposing to me and he goes “yeah, well I have to like, ya know, fake you out and stuff a few times before I do it for real that way you won’t ever know when it’s coming.” Let me tell you, if I had a baseball bat with me at the time the kid wouldn’t have a head. I was just speechless. What is engagement, a game to them??? THEY ARE EVIL I TELL YOU!!
Post # 16
Oh my gosh MissSheva! You made my day. I at least like to think that I’m getting my point across lol.
But on a serious note….that is so exciting for you!!!! At least he is at least thinking about it. I’m so jealous haha. (in a good way of course) And yes, boys are evil.