Post # 1
I am brand new to this whole TTC thing. My husband and I have been working together (individual and couple’s therapy) to try to find a time to plan for a baby. He has wanted to wait and I have been ‘ready’ for a long time. We agreed that we would begin talking about trying around November, hoping to really TTC in/around May 2014.
HOWEVER – tonight we had a total spontaneous evening. We have recently been going through a lot of changes (husband looking for a different job) and have been really beginning to see what’s important in our lives instead of planning/freaking out about every minute detail. So, we were having this amazing discussion at dinner and said – what if we tried tonight?? If nothing comes of it, we will go back to our original plan. We both agreed and followed through with it (for the first time EVER!)
So, now my question is: is there any real chance that conception could have occurred? According to my calendar chart, if ovulation took place on day 14 (not sure if that’s how it is for me, as I have never paid much attention before), it would have taken place on 2/28. This happened on 3/3.
This whole thing may sound ridiculous, but I just have no idea where to begin. It felt like everything aligned tonight and it was one of those life-changing moments, but I don’t know if I am just romanticizing the idea that it could have happened. I know it usually takes women many months/years to find success.
Any insight here? Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
Um, IF you ovulated on day 14, then no. Once you release an egg, it will only survive 12-24 hours before it dies. So, you really need to already have swimmers there waiting for the egg already. Generally, you can get pregnant from sex 3-5 days BEFORE ovulating, but not really after. Even BDing one day after ovulating is really only helpful in the event that you weren’t entirely sure.
However, since you’re not sure, it’s also possible the you do not ovulate on day 14 – as a lot of women don’t. If you ovulate later, then yes, it could be a possibility. The only real way to know when you ovulate would be to chart your temps to see retroactively if you ovulated, although OPKs are helpful too but don’t always mean that you *will* ovulate, just that you body is getting ready to.
Hope that helps.
Post # 4
@Mrs.LemonDrop: exactly this.
It is always a possibility because seeing how you don’t really know when you ovulate since you don’t keep track there is always the chance you ovulate later in the month but if you did ovulate on CD 14 then no there is no way you could get pregnant. How long are you cycles usually? If you miss a period take a test. But good luck! I have a feeling if you end up not getting pregnant you will start trying sooner than your plan. Something about the *possibility* of getting pregnant can make people realize they want kids sooner.
Post # 5
My cycles are usually 28-29 days (closer to 29 over the past 4 months). I’m confused… my iPhone app says that ovulation was likely 2/28, but according to babycenter.com’s ovulation calculator, i am fertile through 3/4. Ahhh… this is a whole new language.
Post # 7
@want2beeamom: If you ovulate 2/28 then you fertile window would end 3/1. Maybe it is saying you are fertile 2/28-3/4 which could make sense if you ovulate 3/3 or 3/4. You have about a 5 day fertile window but it ends after you ovulate. So you are only fertile the days leading up to ovulations, day of ovulation and 12-24 days after ovulation.