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    Crysmack    July 24, 2010   Ann Arbor, MI

    Peace and Blessings Brides, 

    So, I'm new to this thing. I got engaged on September 13, 2009. We're getting married July 24, 2010. 

     

    I'm swimming in wedding planning and starting to loose my mind! 

     

    I never wanted a big wedding. We could have eloped on Sept 14th for all I cared. But HE is very traditional. We're both the first in our families (extended family included) Needless to say, this thing is getting pretty big.

    We're paying for the bulk of the wedding ourselves. My mom paid for the dress and is taking care of the cake. His parents are paying for the photographer. Other than that...its all US!

    I'm freaking out! How do we build the "wedding fund" and continue to LIVE? 

    I'm worried that our wedding will look thrown together. Mainly the decor...Everything else is taken care of..

    Church is booked.

    Reception hall is reserved.

    DJ has been hired.

    Invites have been designed.

    BMs have been notified and dresses chosen.

    Honeymoon site is chosen and deposit is down.

    Photographer has been hired and engagement shoot shot (snickers at word play).

    Centerpiece vases purchased....and now I'm stuck.

    Cake tasting has commenced.

     

    HEEEEelllllpppp...I'm pulling my hair out here. Its so much....

    I feel like Mr. Big!

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    Welcome to Weddingbee!  It seems that you have things well in hand already, so that's a good sign!  I might suggest a DOC, so that you have someone who makes sure that your look is cohesive and not thrown together.  It takes a lot of stress off!  (I didn't have one and things came out fine, but everyone tells me it is worth it!)

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    It sounds like you have a lot of stuff accomplished!!! You still have plenty of time to get everything done - just try to relax - you have plenty of time to get it all done!

    And welcome to Weddingbee!!!

     
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    Crysmack    July 24, 2010   Ann Arbor, MI

    Thank you ladies!

     
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    amariem25    October 2009  

    Just pick one look for decor and stick with it.  Don't change your mind a million times and buy new decorations and waste money.  That's what happens with a lot of brides.  So don't buy anything until you know that it is absolutely what you want for decor.  And I wouldn't worry too much about everything looking thrown together.  Most people don't pay that much attention to decor.  I spent so much time on mine and no one really cared in the end.  By the end of the night the flowers were dead and it was sad to see them just getting thrown in the garbages.  People are there to support you and love you, they shouldn't be judging the decor that much.  The only ones that will are probably engaged and planning their own weddings.

     
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    jordynrose    October 16, 2010   Las Vegas, NV/Chandler, AZ

    Welcome to WB!!!!!

    You sound like you are on track!  If you are stuck on centerpieces, ask your florist.  If you are doing your own flowers...take a picture of your vases and post here.  There are hundreds of crafty and creative ladies to help you out.

    Also, get on that caterer! :)

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    Welcome to weddingbee!  Looks like you are on track!  If you are worried about forgetting things, TheKnot has a great checklist!  

     
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    noodlefish    November 27, 2010  

    Congratulations!  It sounds like you have a lot done already. I deal with the wedding crazies with lists. I'm a list girl.  As in, I have to make a list (the old fashioned way with pen and paper or print out my handy excel file and hold it) and cross things out as I complete them or I will go insane. 

    For expenses, I split up mine and mr. noodle's expenses into "fixed expenses" like rent, insurance, DTE, cell phones, whatever else we pay about the same amount of money on every month and then another list for food, gas, fun money, etc. It's a lot easier to budget that way and when you look at the one total it makes that big number in your head that is wedding expenses feel less scary. I also started rolling with cash... I take my budget and give myself cash for the week for those extra expenses instead of using my debit card (or help me... the credit card). It's harder to buy those lattes 5 times a day or whatever your vice is when you have to give up cold hard cash.... lol and if I need anything extra I have to pull it from my savings account. :)

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    Welcome, welcome, welcome to the bee!! You have a ton done! You rock! It seems as tho you have this all figured out. I feel ya on the swimming in wedding planning thing.

     
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    Crysmack    July 24, 2010   Ann Arbor, MI

    I"m enjoying this place!

     

    ANd the catering is included in the venue! thank GOodness, one less vendor to deal with.

     
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    WendyS328    February 11, 2011   Saint Louis,MO

    So is it just the decor you're stuck on now?

     
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    Crysmack    July 24, 2010   Ann Arbor, MI

    The Decor

    How to contribute more money without working myself sick...which is what's starting to happen

    Delegating tasks

    Including everyone in some way...

    Those are the things that I'm stuck on...

     

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