Post # 1
I’ve been lurking on these boards for a few weeks now, but just registered/posted for the first time today.
So I have NEVER been the kind of girl who dreamt of engagement rings or a wedding, I have always been the single party girl in my group of friends, different guy each month, you know. I honestly rolled my eyes when my friends would get engaged. In fact, when I met my SO 5 months ago, one of the first things we talked about was how ridiculous our friends who were getting married were.
Anyway, I’m sure you see where this is going. We fell madly in love instantly, things have moved very fast, we are talking very seriously about the future, he is being out of control romantic, and he has dropped hints that a diamond might be in the works for Christmas, sooooo all of a sudden I’m spending all day at work browsing rings and reading all your stories on these boards and it is ALL I CAN THINK ABOUT.
I just wanted to come on here and say “hi.” I never even considered what this whole “waiting” thing would be like, and it’s nice to have some people who totally get it!
Sorry if this was random, thanks!
Post # 3
Welcome to the Bee laughs. At least you might not have long to wait. Either way waiting can be a frustrating as well as awesome time.
Post # 4
That’s nice to hear how happy you are! I don’t want to put a damper on anything, but 5 months is not a long time… have you at least had the not so fun conversations about finances, kids, religion, the usual stuff?
I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but generally the giddy honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever. I am not saying that you’re not compatible or anything, but I’d be afraid to get engaged so soon. At least consider a long engagement if it happens. No rush, right?
Post # 5
@canarydiamond: I was thinking this as well. I’ve heard of people getting engaged at 5 months and being happy for years to come. But it’s not the norm. For me the honeymoon period lasted a good year, and even though I knew I wanted to marry my SO within 6 months. I’m happy we waited it out, went through a few hardships together, and saw each other at our best and worst before we decided to make some moves to take the next step.
Post # 6
@canarydiamond: oh yeah TOTALLY, when I first like had the “feeling” that we might get engaged I felt like a total crazy person, like “why would we even consider this after such a short amount of time we must be crazy” but we have been so so so on the same page about everything, every step of the way. Hey, even my therapist seems to think it’s a good idea.
But yeah, if an engagement DOES happen, it’ll definitely be long.
Post # 8
My FI were friends for about 6 months before we dated and he proposed 2 MONTHS into our relationship (eek!). It was quite soon, but yesterday was our 2 year engagement anniversary and we aren’t getting married until my 25th birthday in 2014. I am going a little stir crazy waiting for my wedding day, but I have really learned a lot these past two years. Our relationship has grown and changed and I’m quite glad we have taken our time with the wedding (he JUST graduated school yesterday and I graduate with my bachelor’s this May). Best wishes and I hope you have a very special holiday!