Post # 1
This past year I went to 4 weddings. Two out of the 4 sent thank you ‘cards’ that was just a picture of the bride and groom from their wedding and then had a side bar that said “thank you for sharing in our special day” or something to that extent. Is this the new trend? Or has this been around and I’m just naive?
I’m used to having handwritten paper folding cards that are personalized…these were different to me.
Post # 3
ugh i hope not. you should always thank someone specifically for the gift they gave you. We had cards like that–photo cards–but on the back, we wrote a typically thank you note
Post # 4
ugh that is not okay.
traditional etiquette-wise, the card shouldn’t even have “thank you” printed on it. i’m in violation of that “rule,” but i would NEVER send a thank you without a personal handwritten note.
Post # 5
That is unacceptable in my book. A handwritten note should have been attached thanking you for your specific gift.
Post # 6
We are having a wedding shower, so we will be writing out thank you cards to the guests that attend that event. They would bring their gift to the shower so we will send them a card after the shower. After the wedding I may send out a general thank you “picture” card to those people (whom I have already thanked in another note). Does this make sense? Do you think it’s ok in this situation?
Those guests who weren’t invited to the shower or didn’t go, we will write them thank you notes after the wedding. It is always nice to write a personal message.
Post # 7
That’s just lazy.
If someone cared enough to come to your wedding and give you a gift, then you should care enough to hand write them a card thanking them for the specific gift that they gave you!!
Post # 8
Thanks for the responses! I thought that was strange too. I prefer a personal hand written note! I know it takes a while to hand write many thank yous, but I think it’s worth it!
Post # 9
@MSomar: No, I do not believe this makes sense. You should write a seperate hand written thank you note for each present. If you are given a shower gift and not a wedding gift, then it would be nice to send a picture card stating that you were glad they came to your wedding. However, if you also received a wedding present, I would also write a thank you card for the wedding present.
Post # 10
ive received similar cards and thought nothing of it – at least i got a card, im still waiting for a thankyou card from a wedding 3yrs ago but as they have since divorced ive stopped holding my breath for it 🙂
Post # 11
@MSomar:handwrite another thank you note on the back of the picture card (thank them for coming and/or for the wedding gift if they gave one) and it will be fine.
Post # 12
That’s not okay in my book either. If people can take the time and spend the money to share your wedding day, the least a couple can do is write a thank you note. DH and I made our own thank-you notes, using a picture from our wedding day and typed Thank you and made that the cover of our thank-you note. But inside we handwrote a message to each of our guests. We got a lot of compliments on that.
PS – just a vent – friends of ours got married in June and still no thank-you note! (And they cashed the check, so we know they got it.) In the words of stephanie tanner – how rude!
Post # 13
I got one like that a while ago… no mention of the gift, they didn’t even physically sign the thing! WTF!! It is SO lazy.
Post # 14
I believe you should always hand write your thank-you cards, photos can be on there also though.
FI & I attended 4 weddings in the last year & my FI stood up in two, we only received 2 thank you cards & one was the picture with nothing else. That really bothers me, especially when they cashed our check real quick after the wedding. That is just a severe pet peeve of mine,
Post # 15
I have gotten a couple “thank you” picture cards, both came with a handwritten note thanking me for my gift. I didn’t like that they were post card type with the writing on the back of the picture but they came in an envelope. I did like getting a picture of the bride and groom though. I would like to send a picture but I really like thank you cards and send them all the time, so that is one thing I would like to keep traditional and correct.
Post # 16
I think that is rude too. We ordered cards with our photos on the front as well, but we will be writing formal thank you’s on the back.