- 6 years ago
Ok, so I’m not exactly new to waiting, but I am new to posting. Hello, everybody! (Is it bad that in my head right now I’m hearing “hello, Dr. Nick!”?) I’m Ms_Sunshine and I stumbled upon this site last week and have been gleefully lurking ever since (o/ ring porn!) But, after the convo I had with my bf last night, I decided to break my silence because I reallyyyyyy need to post (and squee).
So, a little background: I’m a month shy of turning 26, the boy’s 2 weeks from 28, we met when I was 13, and we’ve been dating for 4.5 years (give or take a few weeks). I’ve known that I wanted to marry this man since before we even became a couple, and he’s known that since shortly thereafter.
Long story short:
I’ve been “gently” implying for the last year or so that it’s time to make it official. My family loves him and his parents already refer to me as their daughter/DIL. My Aunt has repeatedly asked me about when we’ll be getting married, and even cornered my bf to ask him what was taking so long. My Grandmother keeps telling me that she hopes to still be (read: better be) around when the happy day finally comes (she’s 89!!). She even called the boy to ask when it was coming! So needless to say, I/the boy have been feeling a little bit of pressure to get married already. (Secretly, I’ve been pretty ok with that).
So, fast-forward to mid-October 2011. I get a phone call from my dad saying “So, Mr_Sunshine came to see me the other day and he told me that you’ll be getting married in January/February of next year (2012).” I’m like “wait… what?!?!” Apparently, my dad misunderstood the situation since (I think) my bf was so nervous. From what I can gather, my bf actually asked my dad’s permission to marry me and told him that he’d be proposing in January or February! Of course, at that point, I was somewhat exasperated/frustrated with my dad for spilling the beans, but also SUPER excited about my (potentially) forthcoming engagement.
So, for the last month or so I’ve been trying not to let my bf know that my dad told me anything, while at the same time “casually” dropping hints about the type of ring I want. The boy has since been saving money like crazy (which is sooooo abnormal for him) and has made a few comments about how he “may not be a bf for too much longer.” At this point, I’m like “OMG! It’s really gonna happen soon!!!” However, I didn’t think he had bought a ring yet (I was pretty sure that he was still saving up).
Then, last night, I can’t sleep and I start looking at rings online and I start researching moissanite and I see a few rings that I ABSOLUTELY loved so I sent him a picture. Almost immediately I received a call from him saying “so… why’d you send me that picture? Are you trying to tell me that you don’t want diamonds now?” I said “well, I wouldn’t say no to diamonds, but I figure that the only way I’ll get even close to the size ring I want is if I go gem.” Then he gets reallyyyy quiet for a while then says “well, that’s disappointing, and I can’t even tell you why.”
Bees, you should have heard how quickly I started backtracking!! I think he already put a deposit on the ring and I’m afraid that I’ve made him second guess his pick. Ahhhhhhhhh!!! I’m freaking out! Thanks for letting me vent, Bees. Sorry for the long post!