Post # 1
I’m a long time lurker and just felt compelled to join this morning. I’ve been seeing my Boyfriend or Best Friend for 6 years, since we were both 17-18. Made it through college LDR (major accomplishment!) and now I moved back home to be closer to him and start work while he finishes his masters at NYU. He will be graduating in May and then starts the great job search. From there, were looking to make some big steps within the next year (hopefully). I want to move out with him and get engaged to him. He awaits these things as well, he just can’t provide me a timeline because he isn’t employed yet. And I understand. But, I’ve been working for the past two years, and feel like I’m on the last page of a chapter of a book. I want to turn the page and keep reading, but my Boyfriend or Best Friend a very slow reader.
I have no doubts that well eventually get to where need both want to be but I would be lying to all of you if I said I was perfectly happy with where my love life stood right now. I love this man more than anything. I only want to begin my life with him. I don’t need a big ring or anything showy. I just would love for him to finally get down on one knee and ask me to be his wife.
I would love to hear from other bees and know the feelings I’m feeling aren’t ridiculous.
Post # 3
@thebiz53: First, welcome to the bee! Secondly I feel you on all aspects of your post. Here’s what I’ve found out about men…They like to have everything in order before they get on with their life. My SO wants to be fiscally sound before we get married. I know he has a diamond, but we’re going to save for a setting, but he thinks we should pay off our credit card debt before buying a setting because then we’ll be able to afford our wedding with no debt. As much as I really respect that he’s looking out for our future, part of me is like you (the bigger part) and wants him to get down on one knee already & pop that question!
The waiting bees are very helpful and will support you!
Post # 4
@thebiz53: Welcome! We have a similar love story 🙂 I know waiting eats at your mind sometimes, but it looks like you’re both at an extremely critical and fuzzy time in life so all you can do is support him. It will just bring him so much closer to you!
@braverbeating: same with my SO. We’re going for a sapphire, and he knows his clown car of a family is going to bust on him for not getting a diamond so he’s trying to go for a Kate Middleton-sized rock (not literally, but up there) to keep them quiet. Not that I’m complaining but of course there are times when I just want to say do it already! LOL.
Post # 5
@NinjaWings: I’ve told SO I would have been more than okay with a sapphire as its my birthstone, but I think it’s important to him to get me a traditional stone…which I’m more than okay with as well!
Post # 6
@braverbeating @ninjawings thank you so much for the welcome and support. I know things will be tied to how he manages financially in the next few months. Wish me luck! I hope the best for you both as well!!
Post # 7
Hi! Welcome to the Bee!!
Definitely make sure he’s comfortable financially enough to take care of you and can save so that you guys can make at least most of your dreams come true. If I were you, I’d at least start looking at some of the things I like as far as a wedding goes, so that in the event he becomes financially stable, he will ask and you will know.
Post # 8
@GirlWithTheGlassSlippers: thanks, I definitely will take your advice. I know that whenever the time comes, I’ll make it beautiful and memorable, no matter how much money we have. I’ll be happy marrying the man I love.