- 5 years ago
Hello Fellow Bees!
Just thought that I just jump in and say hi (as my constant stalking of the threads on Weddingbee was bordering on voyeuristic). My SO and I have been together for a little over a year; I am 24 and he is 26 (yes, thats not long to be dating and yes we are quite young). SO is a wonderful man and I love him very much. he is also very good with my wedding obsession (what can I say? I like pretty things) because he knows that I’d never push him into marriage (I struggle to push him to do housework).
Our problem is more about timelines. I would like to be married when I’m 28. I have also always wanted to have a long engagement (2 years minimum, 3-4 years would be ideal). This has more to do with my personality than anything else. I know that I’m going to be a stubborn so-and-so and take FOREVER to get everything done. I mean, I took 2 months to plan SO’s birthday last week and that was only a picnic lunch and dinner with his parents. SO’s timeline is very different, he thinks that 5 years into the relationship is a good time to get engaged (because according to dear old SO, weddings only take “6 months max” to plan… cute but dumb).
My question other bees is, how did you come up with a compromise on your timeline that means both parties are happy? Is it possible to come up with a common timeline without someone feeling like they caved?