- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Hi all! So I guess this is my introduction post– honestly, I’ve been lurking some, but trying not to post because I’m afraid getting more involved will fuel my crazy side, if you know what I mean. Let’s hope it doesn’t, right?
My man and I have been together a bit under two years, and it’s been just amazing and great, enough said. A couple of months ago, I finally figured out that I eventually wanted to marry him and brought it up. Much to my surprise, he was really happy and said that he was right there with me and had been thinking about proposing for a while, but didn’t know if I wanted that! So, a weight off my shoulders and his!
As background, I kind of always figured I’d go through life alone and very happy with my career and my own life and maybe some cats, and maybe someday find someone to be old and crochety with. I have absolutely no prior visions of how getting and being married and everything up to that would be, so I’m completely starting from scratch here. Actually, it kind of surprised me that my BF said something about proposing, because I’d never really considered being proposed to.
Here’s what I’m not sure about: how can I get across ring preferences to him without intruding on whatever he’s got going on? On the one hand, I’m really not a jewelry girl, so it took me some research to even find something I’d like to wear, and there’s pretty much no way in the world that he’ll come to the same conclusion without some pretty specific instructions, i.e. hints aren’t going to cut it, and I’m real bad at hints to start with. Ironically, the rings I like are low cost as engagement rings go, and I’m afraid that if left to his own devices, he’d get something way more expensive, even though he knows I’m thrifty and wouldn’t like that. On the other hand, he’s made it pretty clear that proposing is a thing HE is doing, that it’ll be a surprise, and that it is not my problem. He also mentioned that he’d thought about proposing for our two year anniversary, but rejected that because it’s close to Valentine’s and that’s not really his style or mine. My guess is that it probably won’t be too long after that, so I’m afraid to just wait for the topic to naturally come up in case he goes and buys something expensive that I don’t want before that conversation happens.
One consolation is that there’s no way he knows my ring size, as I don’t even know it and I don’t even have any rings that fit that finger. Maybe that’s a stop-gap?
Again, sorry this is such a long post, this is the first time I’m saying anything about this and apparently I have a lot to say! Eek! Any suggestions?