(Closed) New Waiting Bee's Pre-Vaca thoughts. Offically Waiting now.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Welcome again! I thought Jennifer’s character in the movie was so well done.  You could see her heart breaking when she left him.  As long as you are open and honest about expectations then you should be ok. DOnt leave him int he dark about your feelings.  GUys are seriously so dense sometimes. 

And try not to put the pressure of an engagement on your trip.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Is it really a money issue, or is he just not where he feels like he should be to get married and settle down?

When my ex and I were ring shopping, I showed him a bunch of rings that I liked in a variety of prices.  He said, “I don’t want to get a diamond because of the conflict involved in bringing them to market, also I think they are overpriced.”  So I found a bunch of Yogo sapphires (Montana sapphires which only come out of one mine; they are very rare over 1 ct and ethically/environmental-considerately sourced) that were similar.  He said, “Those are too expensive.”  So then I found a bunch of vintage rings on Brilliant Earth that I liked, and he went no where with it.  He didn’t really have an answer for me after that but I know he didn’t “go anywhere” with those rings.

In all of this we went on three big trips and met on several smaller trips.  I kept getting more and more disappointed with each trip when I knew he wasn’t going to propose, even though I know he makes good money.

If he starts saying things like, “I’ll marry you if X happens” or “I’ll marry you when Y happens”, I would see that as a red flag.  He either wants to marry you as you are and as your situations are, or he doesn’t.

Some guys just don’t want to take that next step.  Some do and do want to provide the best they can for their sweethearts.  Only you can truly determine which your SO is.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yes, it’s really hard to keep cool during wedding season, especially if everyone around you is already married or getting married.

 

Since you are so sure it will happen, try to focus on what you have together and how good he is to you; so many women who get married never get to have what you have together.

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