Post # 1
Hello fellow Weddingbees!
I’m new to this site, and in the early stages of planning my wedding for next March, 2015. We settled on pi day! 3.14.15 🙂 I have a lot of family overseas so it will be a two-parter: a ceremony and reception here in the US and another reception in Poland. I’ve been hunting for venues and have decided to go with Abbington Distinctive Banquets in Glen Ellyn, IL. Great value, great people, and great space! Cant argue with any of those 😀 However, they don’t do ceremonies on Saturday so I need to find somewhere to have my ceremony..
So this brings me to my dilemma!
I really liked the Founders room at the Morton Arboretum:
The nice thing about having a ceremony at the arboretum is that the grounds are open for all your guests and you could take lovely pictures. It’s also a great price to rent… BUT the ceremony would have to finish by 3 pm!
I don’t want my reception to stat until at least 5:30pm (my ideal time: 6pm). Since most of my family is overseas, and the Mr. doesn’t have an overly large family, the wedding will be majority young folk. That means that it will go until 1 am. I can’t have the reception start any earlier. If I have the ceremony at the Arboretum that would mean a minimum of a 2.5 hour gap!
Thoughts? Is this too much? Will everyone be unsure of what to do with themselves?
I might add that the reception site is only 10 minutes away..
I started looking for other ceremony locations in the chicago area but I’m having a difficult time finding one. I would be looking for a non-denominational site, something with some photo ops since the reception exterior is lacking, and something indoor since the weather in March is so unpredictable.
I just don’t know what to do :/
Any words of advice? Suggestions? Help?
Post # 3
@-Lemonpie-: Most weddings have some sort of gap between the ceremony and reception, especially Catholic weddings.
I don’t mind the gap as long as I know about it ahead of time, so I can plan how I am going to manage my time.
Are there bars, coffee houses etc in the area? You might want to include that information on a separate card with your invitations, or refer your guests to your website for that information.
Post # 4
@-Lemonpie-: I agree with @julies1949. My family is Catholic and when I was a kid I never realized there were weddings that *didn’t* have a gap.
If you’re really concerned about it, can you do something at your reception venue that will start a little earlier? Maybe an extended cocktail hour or something? Or plan some other event — you’re near Chicago, so maybe there’s some touristy stuff your guests can do in between?
Post # 5
That gap is waaaayyyyyy too long, especially for out-of-towners or those considering taking taxis to avoid drinking and driving. They’d basucally be stuck with nothing to do and too much time to kill but not enough time to go do something. Start the reception earlier, for the comfort of your guests. They are putting themselves through a lot to be there, so make it as convenient and comfortable as possible for them.
Post # 6
@Horseradish: I have to disagree with this one. That gap isn’t too long and is very common in certain circles. Enough time to even head back to a hotel, go for a coffee, sit and talk. Could be worse
Post # 7
@kearaaaaaa: just because it’s common doesn’t mean it is at all fair to the guests.
as a guest, a 2.5 or 3 hour gap sucks and it’s really the hostess’ job to make sure her guests don’t have a sucky time.
Post # 8
I think I just needed to hear that 🙂 Thanks everyone!
The Arboretum is very strict about their ceremony times and there was absolutely no way to have it end any later… So despite how pretty that ceremony room was I let go of it!
And now I think I found something that fits much better!
I stumbled upon the Mayslake Peabody Estate. There they have this wonderful labrary with a vintage feel, large windows, and stunning fireplace. The gap is now only one hour AND they actually allow live flower petals- which the Morton Arboretum did not.
So I thank you again fellow WeddingBees- your comments definitely helped lead me to a MUCH better ceremony option <3