(Closed) New Years Resolution – not to talk about getting married!! day 5 and struggling

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2494 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds like you have taken your relationship focus from “being together” to “waiting to be engaged”. My suggestion is to try to redefine your relationship focus to building a stronger relationship and focusing on the positives of what you have. I think that with this, engagement will come in time.

All that being said, I understand you are frustrated and it sounds like your NY resolution is well on your way to redefining your relationship from a not-so-frustrating perpective.

Post # 4
1013 posts
Bumble bee

I think you need to be part of the Mr. Bee Plan!!! It will definitely help you in the waiting process as well as (hopefully) take the preassure off him to propose! 

Post # 6
153 posts
Blushing bee

omg he’s had the ring almost 2 years?!?! I would FLIP OUT!

is there any special reason he’d be waiting that long?

Post # 7
3059 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

the gist of mr. bee’s plan is to have your own life. go back to doing the things you did (going to the gym, hanging with friends, working late) before this guy came into your life. the more things you have going on that are not about the relationship the more attractive you are. basically, it’s easy to fall into this rut and be taken for granted. so get out there and be busy doing things!

one of my girlfriends started doing crossfit and got really into working out last summer, shortly after a big engagement blow out with her boyfriend. she’s busy busy busy doing weekend competitions and working out and really stopped worrying & nitpicking on the relationship and engagement. he just surprised her with a proposal at christmas. she had completely shifted her focus onto making herself happy and that in turn made him see again how awesome she is.

Post # 8
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

To echo everyone else: don’t forget about YOU!  And don’t forget to enjoy the wonderful man you already have!  I’m with you, waiting is freaking terrible.  But enjoying the company of someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is key…and it will hopefully help him realize just how much he wants to spend the rest of his life with you!  Be strong, dear!

Post # 10
3303 posts
Sugar bee

He has had the ring for 18 MONTHS and stilll hasn’t proposed…. because he is “waiting” for the right time?

Post # 11
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

just curious, how long have you been together since he has already had the ring for 2 years?

I think this site will help you a lot! it gets all your wedding thoughts out. I love it as it helps me not talk about it non stop to my co workers and stuff!!

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