Post # 1
When shopping for an e-ring, other than style, are there any special considerations that I have to take into account? I dont know what kind of wedding band I want yet, but do I have to buy a specific kind of e-ring to make sure my wedding band will fit with it on my finger? Or do I not have to worry about any of this for now and just assume there will be a wedding band that WILL go with my e-ring?
Also, when I choose an engagement ring, do I have to increase/decrease the size to account for the wedding band somehow?
Regarding size, I have had 3 different jewelers tell me that I am 3 different sizes!! (One told me I am size 5, second one told me I am 4.5-4.75, another one told me I am size 5.5). My knuckles are quite big (compared to my finger) so one jeweler told me that the size should depend on my knuckle size, not the part that the finger rests on. Do you bees have any input? I am feeling quite confused.
Thank you for all your help, fellow bees!!!! *bee dance*
Post # 3
Whatever ring size you get needs to be tight enough that it wont easily slip over your knuckle.
As for a wedding band that totally depends on you. If you don’t mind a gap or wouldn’t mind wearing the e-ring on one hand and the wedding band on the other then no. But if that would bother you I would put it high on the list for things to consider! Also metal choices, cut, clarity and color.
Also have fun with it! 🙂 And don’t rush it. Make sure you get what you love!
Post # 4
Regarding the size you should be able to slip the ring on and off your finger comfortably, but it shouldn’t be spinning or flopping all around while on your finger either. If you need to get a 5.5 size to get it over your knuckle then just get some sizing beads added so it will be comfortable while it’s on and won’t spin as much.
The wedding band is really up to you. Some people like mismatched sets while others prefer bands that are exact matches! If you don’t like the look of mismatched sets definitely take that into consideration when looking at e-rings. Or you can get a band made to go with your e-ring when the time comes.
As for the size of the wedding band, it depends on your fingers. My fingers can hold two bands that are the same size just fine without feeling too tight. In your case, if you need your engagement ring to be size 5.5 to comfortably fit over your knuckles then get that size for your wedding band too and you can always add sizing beads to your w-band as well.
Post # 5
Some e-ring styles have matching bands. Many do not, but a good local jeweler (not just a jewelry store, but a jeweler) can custom-make about anything!
I personally wanted an engagement ring that would sit mostly flush with a plain wedding band. It has pretty flat sides. You can see there is a little gap at the top between the rings, but not much.
It’s all about personal preference though. Search the boards for “gaps” and you’ll find threads with lots of pictures of ladies that like a space between the e-ring and wedding band.
Or you can find a beautiful engagement ring and not wear a band with it at all! I’d just look around a lot and see what you like!
Post # 6
Thank so much for all your input!! I really appreciate it
I will definitely research about the gap and consider matched vs. mismatched looks.
risingsun: I love your ring!
Post # 7
Ring size: Did you try on their sizing ring things? It’s like a big metal ring with plain metal sizer/ring for each ring size that you can try one. You should be make to get an idea of what size YOU prefer. I wanted mine to fit my finger well since I don’t want it to spin alot and didn’t want it to be able to ever slip off my finger (I work in healthcare and take gloves on/off alot). So it’s a bit of a tigher fit around my knuckle. Like PP said, it’ll all depend on what you want!
Gap: alot of rings will have matching bands, or you can find something that comes close. More elaborate rings (e.g. halo vs. solitaire) will be more likely to need a matching or custom made ring to avoid a gap. Like PP said, search for “ring gap” and you can get a visual idea!
About a week ago I asked for tips about looking at rings in person for the first time and bees gave good advice – check it out if you want 🙂 http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/first-time-looking-at-rings-in-person-tips
Post # 8
Also! Think about if you’re going to want to wear your wedding band on its own. If you get a custom or matching band, some will have unusual shapes to accomodate the shape of the Engagement Ring. You may or may not want to wear a ring with a notch or something like that on its own.
Post # 9
@medbride: Yes, I did try on the jeweler’s sizing rings. I think I will need to go and try them all out again just to compare the fit/comfort to choose the best one for me 🙂
Thanks for all your tips, and I will definitely read through your thread!
Post # 10
@petitebee: Check out Pricescope and Blue Nile for their education sections on diamonds, metals, gemstones etc. It can be really eye-opening.
Also if you’re getting a diamond, know the 4Cs. It can get quite complicated, but it’s great to be armed with information so you’re not ripped off and know exactly what you’re buying. For example, if size is more important than clarity for you, it would be silly to buy a flawless diamond if you can only afford a third of a carat (just giving a random example). If you went with an eye-clean VS2, you could buy a much larger stone and it would look exactly the same to the naked eye. Unless you’re made of money, there will be some factor you need to compromise on, and that’s ok. Just do your research.
Post # 11
One thing I had a problem with is the fact that my engagement ring band sits low on my finger. I wanted to get a diamond eternity wedding band, but those sit so high on the finger that (to me) it looks totally weird. I wish I would have known and gotten bigger engagement band. My fiance picked it out and I didn’t know at the time that it wouldn’t work with the type of wedding band I wanted.
I found a sample picture online of what I’m talking about. The diamond wedding band sticks out on either side and is probably taller if you looked at a profile view. This was the only thing I would redo.
One thing I am really happy about is the fact that my fiance didn’t go over his budget. I have a wonderful ring. Would I have loved a 3 carat ring? Yes. Am I happy we didn’t spend that much money? Absolutely. I wanted something big enough that I felt I would never need to upgrade, but not big that we would have had to take a loan or prevent us from doing anything we wanted to do when we wanted to do it (buy a house, plan the wedding, have a baby, etc.).
Post # 12
@petitebee: Aww thanks! I love it too. 🙂
Post # 13
Fiance needed to take into account my profession. I’m a pianist/piano teacher, so I needed something low-set and not too big. For the same reason, I needed a wedding band that could be worn seperately if necessary. (My band is identical to my e-ring, without the center stone.) He also took into account my skin tone when he decided on rose gold instead of yellow (I didn’t want white).
Other than that, the factors were just my personality, my preferences, etc. I couldn’t tell him whether I wanted a round stone or a marquise, so he used both! My ring is very dainty and an artsy twist on the traditional solitaire – me to a T. He did so well. 🙂
Post # 14
@petitebee: I am very detail oriented, and got kind of OCD when it came to finding the perfect wedding band for my ring. so, if I could go back in time and choose my own e-ring, here is what I would consider:
1. how “tall” is the ring band? I had the same problem as @Jenofdnile: my e-ring was super delicate and the band was only about 1mm high. I loved it until I realized that every single wedding band with stones is about 2mm or taller, and I did not like how that looked next to my e-ring.
2. not all white golds are created equal. my wedding set is not rhodium plated, and I think they look white enough. in fact, my 18k white gold is actually a little bit whiter than my 14k band! (in theory, it should be the other way around). but anyway, I’ve learned that there are different types/qualities of alloy that can be used in gold. so depending on the quality of the alloy, some unplated white golds look warmer than others, even if they are both 14k. if I ever get new rings, I’ll keep this in mind because it’s awfully convenient to not have to plate my rings!
3. how comfortable do you want the ring to be? my e-ring prongs are quite pointy and sometimes I accidentally poke my husband with it. oops! but the setting is really low so I think that helps prevent the problem from happening too much. also, my prong set eternity band is a little bit rough feeling against my fingers. for the most part I got used to it, however, I find my ring too uncomfortable to wear to bed. something like a bezel setting or channel set would have been so much more comfortable.