- 3 years ago
I am brand new and wanted to share a bit about myself and me and my FI’s story. It’s a long one, so I’ll make it as short as possible. Feel free to ask questions!
You may not have noticed, but there is no date set yet. My FI and I have been engaged coming up on three years. In short, we’ve had a crazy engagement. We started dating the last semester of our senior year in high school. 5 months later on our anniversary, he proposed. It completely took me by surprise. We had no money, so I wore his class ring. I made the mistake of telling my parents and making it “Facebook Official”. Our friends knew, his family knew, and now mine knew. Everyone else was happy except for my parents, and it blew up in our faces the next day. It ruined one of the happiest moments of our lives. In short, we made a compromise that we could call the status of our relationship whatever we wanted, but my family would not acknowledge it at all until we were a more suitable age.
After a while, it didn’t feel like I was engaged anymore despite the status on Facebook and how we addressed each other (fiance and fiancee). A year to the day later, he sent me on a treasure hunt with riddles written on post-it notes. At the end, he was down on one knee with a diamond ring in a box. This was to serve as my stand-in ring since we still didn’t have much money. We told my parents and family it was a promise ring and I continued to refer to him as my boyfriend in front of my family.
The following year, I was a sophomore in college finishing up finals before Christmas Break. My FI told me he was going to ask my parents about my Christmas gift. I naturally assumed he was asking their permission to buy me a cockatiel (bird) since my cockatiel of 15 years had just passed away and I missed him so much. I later found out he had asked for my hand in marriage and my father had said yes outright, but my mother said no. As a comprosmise, my parents said to come back in two years and ask again.
It is almost two years later (a few months shy), and I am beginning my senior year of college. We have both grown so much and have begun to seriously look at engagement rings and deciding a budget. We decided that this time, this engagement will become official no matter what my parents decide, as it is what we really want. Neither of us even dreamed about getting married before I got my degree and also don’t plan on pursuing a wedding until I have a full-time career and we are living on our own.
We have been together for three and a half years and it’s been a crazy ride regarding our engagement. Reflecting on it now, I understand where my parents were coming from. While I didn’t neccessarily agree on how they handled the news, I agree that we were incredibly young (and still are) and if I had to do it over again, I would have kept it a private thing between me and my FI or would have told him to wait until we were older. Now that we have a ring picked out and a budget set, things are truly beginning to be put into motion and I could not be more excited. He has been nothing but my rock these three years and some odd months, and we continue to learn about life each and every day and we are ready to face the future head on.
That’s about as short as I can make it. If any of you bees have some crazy stories, feel free to share!