(Closed) Newbee – So frustrated. What do I do??

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Have you talked to any other caterers in the MI area to do a cost-comparison? It sounds like your Fiance (though well-meaning) is stuck on some of the details. If, perhaps, you had some back-up data to prove to him that you are scoring a great deal with a popular and very well-known caterer, he might let go of some stuff. It sounds like you can’t just TELL him, you have to SHOW him! Maybe that will help! Good luck!

Post # 4
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would go into the meeting today with an open mind (or at least pretend that you are LOL) to humor your fiancé.  Sometimes guys just like to feel like their opinions are being considered.  Tell him you need to make a decision today or tomorrow and don’t have time to keep looking or you may lose out on BOTH caterers. 

 If after the meeting you still feel very strongly that the first caterer is the one you want (which I am sure you will) show him some online reviews of prior customers so he can see how amazing she is.      

On a sidenote I wouldnt worry about the groomsmen thing … if he doesnt ask the last one in time it is his fault.  It wont really affect your wedding. 

Post # 6
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I can totally imagine that you are at your wits end..September is right around the corner. Have you tried to sit him down, together make a timeline of things that have to be done and when? Maybe that will help in showing him that you guys need to take some decisions/make some bookings regarding this wedding soon.

Post # 9
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well yea..it might be time to introduce him to Weddingbee…LOL (just kidding). If you say that, then yes…I guess it would be good for the 2 of you to sit down and discuss what needs to be happen between now and September. Believe me, there are alot of men out there (mine included) who have no idea that planning a wedding is like a full time job 🙂

Wait for a relaxed moment and then discuss “your list” with him. Good luck 🙂

Post # 10
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

When I was planning the wedding, I showed Fiance the “to Do” lists and the break downs for everything. I compared prices from different vendors and showed those to him as well. I knew that prices would be the primary concern and so made sure I had all the break down of costs for everything. It made him feel a lot more comfortable planning with me when everything was neatly organized in the binder with all the prices, questions, concerns answered.

When he had troubles deciding on something I would give him a deadline a few days before my deadline, so he had time for last minute changes of heart.

I would find out what his issue is and find a way to work around it.

Post # 11
597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@southernbeelle:  I would have murdered him in a crazy rage of stress. So, kudos to you for not doing that!

I can’t imagine having to plan all the MAJOR things in 2 months. 

Send out the invites but AFTER you have a very long conversation about it all and how much it takes to plan a wedding. If he doesn’t want to wait than he needs to get the ball rolling! 


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